god, It takes a while for the men to get the routine thing happening also.
Don't expect it to happen in one night, I know it would be great if it would. But Isla has been a working progress over the last month or so. I gave each stage a week before movingon to the next. So it was aweek, (probably more for this bit) of lettingher fall asleep next to me in my bed then moving her to hers. Bringing her back to mine when she woke during the night. then it was a week of putting her in her bed & laying with her till she stoped screaming & carrying on about being in daddys bed (why is all of a sudden daddys bed??) she would get up, try to get out of the bed, hit me, scream & cry & eventually give in & come lie with me & fall asleep. I would still bring her back to my bed when she cried through the night.
Then it was a week of nice & calm, happy to lay with me in her bed till she was asleep, little fuss, but lots of chatting. comforting her in her bed if she woke ( up to 3 times a night!)
then a week of me sitting right next to the pillow on the floor beside her, still comforting her when she woke but in her bed.
Im now onto sitting by the bed but not right next to it & reducing the amount of water she has in her sippy cup. As I think she was waking everytime she wee'd. Her nappy is soaked by morning & its a bit much! So between the current thing she has about my hair & her hair & the more dink requests she is getting there. My aim is to be able to take her to bed & feed the baby if I need too & know she will stay in her bed & go to sleep with me in the room & leaving the room if I need to with out her getting up & following.
I have had a few times I have got up & said I will be right back stay there & surprisingly she stayed till I came back.

Baby steps is the key.
OH & if you can, turn the house off. No point getting up if everyone else has gone to bed.