I loves you too hun. And on the c-sect front I really hope I was able to help you way back when...
You are wonderful determined mummy, and those who know you, know that your little girl comes first in this world and that you make these decisions based on love for her and her best interests. And you do this while also selflessly thinking of all the rest of us and supporting us, no matter what you are going through yourself. thank you.
You are amazing Linda - I have often read your posts and been inspired by your sensitive and insightful responses and suggestions.
Being a mum has challenged me in ways I would never have thought - mostly when the path I have taken is not the one I had hoped for. I still have had to remind myself that whatever works best for my family is the way forward for us all. It may not be what I had pictured but that's ok - it is not a negative reflection on my abilities as a mother or the love I have for my family, infact the complete opposite. I am often staggered by the competitive nature of mothers and the lack of compassion displayed - as everyone has their struggles.
I have never met you but I can tell you are an amazingly brave person, a fabulous mother and will touch more people than you could ever realise. Thank you.
Good on you for putting this out there Linda! I admire you for trying to create awareness and bring this out into the open
Some people are so righteous in their beliefs that lots of people are scared into not talking about so many issues. I think that it is terrible that mums are doing what is best for them and their babies and then feeling bad about it, as if you don't have enough stress with a newborn baby. Women need to rally together and support everyone's choices even if they might not be your own.
When my mum was organising my baby shower (imagine super excited first time grandma, over the top with printed games booklets and helium balloons and party favours) she was showing one of her neighbours a picture of a nappy cake made out of disposable nappies that she ended up making for me and the stupid woman just looked at mum with an evil look and said, "don't you know how bad those things are for the environment." Talk about crushing someone's hopes and dreams. I didn't even consider using cloth and am quite happy using disposables but maybe one day someone will be able to convert me
Oh Funky Frog your poor Mum I can only imagine how proud she was I would have loved a nappy cake of spoies as we are using them too for Miss C as she has got her Mummys skin that gets a rash at the drop of a hat
I'm sorry you felt this way. And I hope nothing I've said has lead you to feel this way. But I would just like to tell you something from the heart. I for one care not how a woman births her baby so long as she chooses what is right for her. That is the only problem I have, I can assure you of that (when a woman's choice is not respected). And friends of mine who have chosen C/S and FF will confirm this. Yes I get passionate, but if that passion has been misunderstood I am sorry for that, but I just want you to know that I (and I know I am only one measly member ) support you and am happy for you that your birth was everything you wanted and more.
And for what it is worth, I too have always thought you were amazing in your journey. You were always so strong and supportive. And something that I will never forget is your "affirmative avatar" I loved looking at it, it always made me smile. As when we went through LTTTC affirmations were what kept me sane.
Be proud of your journey and be happy for your choices, this is the best thing a mother can do for their baby and for themselves. C/S or FF you are an amazing woman and mother And thats not meant as a negative at all
Like others have said, we always find something that we feel guilty for and I hope you can take these things off your list xxx
hun you are doing an awesome job!! and good on you for posting about this, i know it would of helped me way back when my dd was a baby
my dd is ff and i am PROUD of it, its nothing to be ashamed about, my milk was not enough for my dd, and god knows we tried, i was judged by all including my doctor, the midwives and my friends. but at the end of the day i couldnt stand hearing my new born baby crying cos she was so hungry, so we ff her and she was like a different baby, she slepts for more then an hour at a time, she was content, no more crying and most of all i felt happy cos no matter what my daughter was getting food!! yeah i wished i could of bf but it just wasnt meant to be. dd and i still got to bond, just like a bf baby, everytime we had a bottle, she would lay there and would look at me, scanning my face and gazing into my eyes, it was so wonderful, i will never foget them 3am feeds with the light on dim and looking down into my babies eyes, holding her in so close and looking at her tiny little hand holding onto my finger. ohhhhh what i woudnt do to go back in time just to have 5 minutes of that again.
oh hun your doing an awesome job, enjoy it sweetie, they grow up way to fast
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of spoies as we are using them too for Miss C as she has got her Mummys skin that gets a rash at the drop of a hat
to your Mum I would love to see a Pic
) support you and am happy for you that your birth was everything you wanted and more.
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