Oh Nic, don't think that will happen. I hazard a guess that those we see with mum struggles also have to deal with the mother not really giving a crap about their children and how they feel. Or pushing their ideals onto them, or neglecting to take an interest, or worse making them feel bad for existing...

You are doing none of that, you DO care how she feels. You recognize that you and DD bounce off each other a bit - and that happens. My Exh had a son that he just "couldn't get". G was the exact opposite of his father and still is, and it was a bit of work to find common ground and they have. I see a lovely relationship with a geeky computer nerd and his sports loving father...

You will find a way, don't worry.