I've told Liebling already there will be less rough and tumble after Stormy is conceived, and I will neglect him dreadfully in the weeks after the birth.

But it's ok, I still will adore him and will go back to having time to play and read later. We can always have chats on the walk to and from school, and Daddy is there to help him when I can't be. I am not feeling guilt, I am responding to the child who needs Mama most and it won't always be the same one.

Liebling has stopped asking DH and me when we're going to have a baby. So maybe my plan isn't the best. But he knows it will be a short phase and things will recover, whuch is important.