I'm going to take him out this morning for some one-on-one time, so I might trying explaining that it's not long term to him. He probably won't get it since his concept of time doesn't really go beyond a few days, but it might help me feel better.

DH said to me last night that DS1 is actually fine and hasn't shown any signs that he is upset or missing out. He's not acting out (anymore than usual), and is actually pretty excited to have both of us home everyday. Which is all true, I guess it's just me being hard on myself.

Teeki - the bedtime juggle is by far the hardest part. In the future, DH won't be home in time 2 nights a week, so I'll be doing it on my own.
I just need a plan, that's how I function... Funnily enough, newborns are into plans/routines