advice from other parents on benefits of having children close in age or not

[Fleur]

My first two were just over 2.5 years apart, DS! & DS2 have a 4.5 year gap and 7 years between DS2 & DD2.

All age gaps have pros & cons IMO, it's really about what will work for you as a family. I agree with MantaRay, smaller gaps can be hard initially but will get easire as they get older. And I do love the gap I have now with Pie, all her older siblings dote on her, it's really sweet.

I had a sister with a 4.5 year gap and we played together quite a lot, as do my two boys, although the age thing does become an issue when the younger one becomes annoying

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the age thing does become an issue when the younger one becomes annoying

I have two 9 year old girls attempting to do 9yo girl things in DD#1's bedroom at the moment. The 2yo wants to go in there and play too. It took some serious effort and eventual dragging a tantrumming 2yo out by her feet so the bigguns could have some privacy lol

[feeb]

My boys are 18 months 4 days apart, it was hard at the start (DS1 did not start walking till 21 months so hard getting anywhere etc.
They r cute when they play together and DS1 gives DS2 hugs and kisses all the time.

I think all kids and all parents are different and there is not a right time I have friends with 12 months gaps up to others with 10 year gap.

[maz]

My first 2 are 18 months apart....I absolutely loved the age difference yet they werent close as toddlers due to W having autism.

w was almost 5 when we had DD and as much as I loved the age gap there, I found kinder and school drop offs/pick ups hard. I was also going through a very difficult stage with W at the time which made havinga baby very hard.

My youngest 2 are 16 months apart....and im seeing the benefits of them growing up now as they ahve time apart from each other due to kinder as a positive.