lol I agree with you MadB... my daily mantra these days is 'lower your expectations' (will have to now add to it "and I haven't killed my child today so I'm doing OK!") But at the same time I know I do better (as in emotionally feel a lot better) when I have a framework in mind and some ideas of what to do, even if I apply them flexibly and let them go on days when I want to, iykwim? My current situation seems to revolve around the fact that I spent the majority of her first year sneaking away to the computer whenever duty called as I was still working (from home half the time) 4 days a week. So I have used the TV far too often for my liking to keep her entertained. I'm fine with her having an hour or two here and there and to be honest, half days of it when I'm struggling!, but I would just like to provide more of a balance I guess and feel like I'm not quite so all over the shop as far as our daily activities go.