i think nature puts mothers on "high alert" with a young baby, as a survival mechanism. small babies are at greater risk than other members of the population. in nature, many young get eaten. so i think, alot of what is seen as "overprotectiveness", actually keeps very young babies safe.

the reality is, those uncovered storm drain holes in the side of the road, they ARE big enough for a baby to fall into, so i gave those a wide berth, made sure i didn't park near any. Stuff i NEVER thought about pre-baby. Stuff that sounds silly to most people. But if my baby HAD fallen down a drain hole, i would have never been able to forgive myself. Due to labour complications, i was less physically able than usual, for the first year of bilby's life, so every time i lifted her in and out of the car, i was in alot of pain, and constantly worried "what if i drop her?" - because it was a possibility. I had taken five years to be able to conceive, she was finally here, and survived a difficult entry, i didn't want to lose her.

it is a survival mechanism to be aware of dangers, to not be foolhardy.

despite my anxieties, young children have a gungho approach, they are innocent and think well of people. i've found it the opposite, i've had to temper my four year old's desire to run naked into the street, run on the road, talk to anyone (we don't live in the kind of neighbrouhood where that is safe, even for adults to do) - so despite her growing up with me and my anxieties, i don't think she is harmed from my carefulness.

i want and encourage her to wash her hands after the toilet - nowadays, her instinct is to run off and play (even before putting clothes back on). She is not a handwashing robot, too interested in playing for that.

As she got bigger and my health got better, my anxiety about the uncovered storm drains abated.
But i have educated her what those holes in the road are, and to walk AROUND them.
I would rather have her aware, than ignorant.
There will be so many things i WON"T be able to protect her from.

everyone does things differently, we all love our kids and are trying to do the best we can, by them.