Welcome to our world When you believe you're the minority it can feel very isolating and out of place. But its all what we are telling ourselves and what we believe. Because you will struggle to find one post where a member has bashed someone for posting about how much they love their Ob or hospital. I dont even venture into the c/s forums because I have no experience having one, and feel I am not the best person to give advice on such matters. I stay where I can provide positive and experience-based information. Yes, women who do choose homebirth and other options usually do appear confident, strong willed and passionate, but thats what it took to get them where they are, having the experience they did. It is a good thing! If it gets too much or too heated or too rude, we'll deal with it. Yes, we infract homebirthers too! But homebirthers are usually full of confidence, strength and want to contribute just like you do. Don't take it personally, its life #101 and forum life #101!

I think those who are choosing options that they believe are not what BB "approves" of (which is silly, we approve choice, not methods) are feeling a touch of insecurity there - and what if someone does reply and says Obs are crap? I can assure you it will get removed. You're all equally protected. Its time to stop looking at us as the bad scary guys, but the good guys, and ones who have a focus a different way than others. There is information women do not have easy access to, or are being provided. We just want to offer it and show that there is another way if you are open to it and not happy with others. This is not a scary or nasty place. Its abundant with many things that can enrich your life if you choose to see them - that doesn't mean do them. Just like you'd embrace another culture or religon, we're all people, we all do things differently and get different things out of them. But we all have a beating heart, love to connect with others, communicate and, just love!
I know that homebirthers would get an infraction too, that's not what I was trying to say. I don't believe there is favourtism going on for one area or another, sorry if I made my post seem like that. I wish there was no need to write that someone is a homebirther, if someone is a hospital birther, or if someone vaccinates or not. Because it doesn't matter. It doesn't matter what choice someone has made for themselves. I don't think that my hospital choice isn't "approved of" by BB either, because it is a pro-choice site. And I can't look at a site or the members/moderators using it, where I have learned so much and made many friends, as being scary

I can't think of anything more empowering than giving birth at home. But that's not to say that a hospital birth can be any less empowering. The joy I felt after giving birth was a mixture of "My goodness, she's here" and "OMG I DID IT!!!!!!!!" To me, it's was almost irrelevant whether I gave birth at home, in a hospital, in a car or in a field. It was about my baby getting here in the best possible scenario. This time around, I'm faced with different dilemmas. Will it be a c/s? Will I be able to have a vaginal birth? I want to do it myself, no intervention. But realistically, my circumstances may not allow for that this time around. I had a moment of terror at the thought of a c/s last week, but pulled back out of it because it doesn't matter. If that's the only way I can birth my baby, then so be it. And I know that this site is where I need to be to learn what's going to happen next