Do you wish you'd waited?

[BrightSparkles]

No, can't say I wish I had waited. I was 23 when DD1 came along. I always said I wanted kids at a younger age so I can enjoy them when they are older also. DH and I married after DD1 was born. We have been together since I was 16 too though, so that's already a long time to have been together. We can travel when they are a bit older

[nothing2lose]

I think that is another interesting variable bright sparkles. I went out with someone from 16-25. The thought of having had a child with him makes me want puke At the time though, he was the love of my life

[sloane]

i'll go the other way & say i wish i'd been younger. i didn't meet my dp until i was 32 so not much i can do about that (& given that he's 8 years younger than me, too much earlier would have been...awkward ). but now i'm 38 & i would have liked 3 children but now i feel time is against me - not that i think i'm too old just that i'd need to work if we wanted another (we'd need a new car etc if we were going to go to 3) & by the time we'd be better off financially, i'd be past when *i* would want to have kids.

then again, i had my chance to travel, live & work overseas and feel semi-fulfilled career-wise before children.

[Calluna]

I do wish we had waited. Not because of our age, but because of our circumstanes. I really hate our living circumstances. That said, who knows how long it would have been and how much the emotional toll of waiting would have affected our relationship. There is every posibility that we would have ended up in this exact same position anyway.

[~TT40~]

for me its not a matter of saying I waited... I had Spock when I was 28 and to me that was old to have my first. If life went to perfect plan I would have been having my 2nd at this age. (not just the LTTTC thing). Looking back I feel I wasted so much time before she was born. I wish I had use my time wiser and achieved more things before hand, because now I don't have the time to do it (she is still young and I know there will be time in the future). But I really do feel I wasted so much of my life, even though I did get a degree and a postgrad, I did have a career, I did get married and buy a house, I did go over seas, I did do a number of things on my bucket list, I still feel I could have done so much more, but only know that in retrospect.
Meeting DH late (in my perfect timelime of life meeting him when I was 25 was old), that along with his age, I feel we needed to make the most of our time together now, as later really might not be a option. but for me that meant kids too, so we had them earlier in our relationship than I probably would have otherwise.

[Jewel]

I don't wish I had waited. My first was born a few months before I turned 20.

[Heaven]

My Mum had me at 20 and have 4 kids before she was 30. All my extended family has also had their children young. But they have all been really happy with the decision and I always heard from my mum how great it was having her kids young and growing up with them and learning things together. So I guess I had that view too.

I am really glad I had kids when I did and I want to have 2 more soon too while I'm still young. I love that we will have more of our life together and I love growing up and experiencing life with them. I have never wished I had waited. But I am also not a career person. This is my career. This is what I've always wanted to do. Before kids I did my Masters at Uni but I always just felt like I was filling in time, waiting until I was old enough to have kids, LOL.

[RhiChiChi]

No, I wish I was younger. I was 30 when I had DD1 and that took 13 months of ttc and I was 36 when I had DD2. I still have accomplished what I wanted to and would have done so if I were younger.