I'm seriously struggling. Miss A on a good day has an unsettled period from about 2.30 pm until 5.00 pm ish. Perfectly timed for when Miss E and Miss I get home from school. It means that I collect the girls and we have a chat in the car about their days, but then the next 2+ hours are peppered with "no darling, Mummy can't do that at the moment because A needs feeding/cuddling/settling". Then its rush for baths for everyone and then getting dinner, clean up and bed.

We won't even discuss how it is on a bad day!

I feel incredibly guilty about neglecting my big girls, but can't just ignore A when she needs a feed or is upset. She hates being in a carrier unless she is settled and happy so I can't be hands free.

How do I balance everybody's needs without anyone suffering?