DD2 here is a much more determined individual than her sister. She will often refuse to apologise or conform - we try to move on quickly so firmly insisting on the apology/excuse me etc but looking forward as if it is a step that is necessary before we move on. This is getting easier with time. Although we do have the issue of DD1 doing things, just saying sorry and not changing her behaviour!
DD2 here is having a rough time atm (in her eyes) as she is feeling like she misses out compared to DD1, trying really hard to be patient but she is hard work!
I am trying to pick my battles here, I get them to apologise but am also trying to pick them up on every little thing, and letting some things slide. I had an awful time at Donny just before and spent 5 minutes lecturing the 2 of them on manners, thank-you's, please, not asking " I want" for every freaking thing. They were silent through the whole thing and then DS nearly 4 goes, "Mummy rain is clouds you know".... **Sighhhhh* Not much help but you definitely aren't alone.
We have the same issue! DD2 will burst into tears and cry and cry if asked to say sorry. We remove her from the situation and then tell her she can return and have a cuddle if she stops crying and says sorry. We also make her say what she is sorry for. Then she is allowed back into the situation. I'm not sure why she is so stubborn and has such an issue with saying sorry - does my head in!
It's funny was just thinking about it and with Iz we will get her to apologise and she cries and carries on at times, then I will say what are you sorry for and sometimes it's way off the mark?! Like today I wanted her to apologise at the shops because she screamed SO loud I think people thought I had tried to murder (yes I was THAT mother at Riot Art) but instead she goes - "sorry for sooking" about something earlier Their perception is so different to ours in our head that sometimes I think we need to be really explicit at why they need to say sorry as well as what they are saying for ITMS? Sort of thinking out loud because we are dealing with some stuff here as well!
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I am trying to pick my battles here, I get them to apologise but am also trying to pick them up on every little thing, and letting some things slide. I had an awful time at Donny just before and spent 5 minutes lecturing the 2 of them on manners, thank-you's, please, not asking " I want" for every freaking thing. They were silent through the whole thing and then DS nearly 4 goes, "Mummy rain is clouds you know".... **Sighhhhh* Not much help but you definitely aren't alone. 
Their perception is so different to ours in our head that sometimes I think we need to be really explicit at why they need to say sorry as well as what they are saying for ITMS? Sort of thinking out loud because we are dealing with some stuff here as well!
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