I was born three weeks after my mum's 21st birthday. Not so unusual given it was 1971. But my whole young life it was made clear that I should not have children until my 30s and that I should accomplish things - study, career, travel, relationships, financial stability, etc - before having children.

I did that, and I have no regrets (except waiting so long to have the second!) In fact, I have always thought I would tell my own DD the same thing.

Similarly, my social circle all had children in their 30s, not their 20s. Although my own sister bucked the trend

It's only since being on BB that I see how common it is for couples to have children while in their early 20s. I have to say it kind of surprised me (which is me being naive ) While it isn't a choice I would have made for myself for my own reasons, each to their own, and no judgement from me. I want to say that again - NO JUDGEMENT FROM ME HERE!

But I have always been curious. Do any of you wish you had waited? I am not asking whether you regret having your children, just whether you wish you had had more time as a couple, or focused on study or career or whatever??? In other words, you have same kids, just 5-10 years later.

My intention isn't to offend anyone, but I have always wondered.