I know how frustrating this situation is. I have the same with my il's. It was a whole lot worse when DS was really little as now if he doesn't want to be held or wants mummy or daddy he will just come get up and come to us rather than us having to wrestle him out of MIL's arms lol. I remember when ds was really little and everyone was playing pass the parcel with him and it was a really hot day, he was upset and mil said he had wind and had him over her lap trying to wind him, i wanted to cry coz i felt like i couldn't even console my son when i knew he didn't have wind and was just hot from the constant holding. In the end i stormed out the house, got the sling, took him off mil and gave him to sil in the sling and told her to walk around with him in the sling and sure enough he settled to sleep. I often felt like this with MIL as i felt i didn't have any rights to my son when she was around as i didn't want to step on any toes. Its silly i know. This time around things are going to be very different and if i want my son i will be taking him off her. DH isn't the kind of guy that will bring anything up with his mum so i just kinda had to live with it. It frustrated me soo much.


I hope you and DH can sort it out quickly.