This is a vent, and advice also welcome.. And I don't claim to be the better parent in the relationship, but I do have less dramas overall..

DH and I just seem to be on a different page when it comes to parenting.. He is the 'tough' one and reckons he has to be as the kids run rings around me.. Maybe they do, but I think they are just seeing how many boundaries they can push..

DD is 4 and DS is 2. With most things, I ask them to do something 3 times, then I tell them with a consequence 3 times (Normally toys to be picked up or they will be put away where they can't have them or walk beside me or we go back to the car and home).. And then if they still don't respond I start to follow through on the action.. DD normally acts as soon as I give her a consequence, and DS will normally do said task if I start to do follow through on consequence.. at this time I do normally allow him to complete whatever it was I asked, whereas DH doesn't and then there are screaming tantrums (last night was over the plug in the bathtub)..

It has got worse since DH went to his parents for 2 weeks cause his Dad was sick.. I think DS lost his trust in DH cause he left him.. He loves DH, but has become extra clingy to me again though..

So any suggestions on how to get on the same page? Whenever I mention it to DH after I have just calmed a tantrum, it ends in us arguing.. It also doesn't help when DH tells me the kids don't act in the same manner when I am not around.. Makes me feel like I am doing something wrong..