Hi lady_neon, I'm not surprised you have had a bit of back lash to your thread But I see where you are coming from. I don't think it's frowned upon so much as perhaps many woman don't understand how SAHM's have the coping skills to stay at home when many others feel the need to return to work for whatever reason. DS is 19 months and I could count on both hands how many hours I've been away from him. This is by choice and I LOVE it! I am one of the fortunate ones who has a husband who makes good enough money, we live in a beautiful house in a beautiful suburb and my dh is home probably 80% of the week so we can share care of DS. All of this combined allows me to cope and love being a SAHM or a PAHM (Play at Home Mum) as I like to call it As you will find out they can be a hand full and mums who need a break often don't have the support of family around like back in the day so child care can be a life saver. I also know of lots of mums who didn't want to go back to work but had to. For us we would sell the house before sending ds to day care but that is our choice as we choose to raise him. I know of some people who find this weird, especially the part of me hardly ever being away from ds (wink wink nudge nudge... I know you are reading... You know who you are) When I was pregnant I also had the roll of the eyes about returning to work and the 'you just wait and see'. I also got stupid comments about the couple of months that dh and I had together when ds was born and people telling me that we wouldn't be able to stand each other! WTF? if you can't stand being around your husband for a couple of months straight than what the heck did you get married for in the first place.

I'll finish by saying that there are woman who 'dump' their kids at day care and I agree, perhaps they should have thought about whether they would have kids or not or at least stopped at one instead of having a tribe of them. This is however a minority and I feel sorry for those children.

And hon, there is a punching Bag / boo hoo section which this may have been better placed in HERE