Everybody (parents, inlaws, boss, to name a few) have been asking DH and I lately whether we plan to have anymore children. And when DH and I say "maybe" we keep on getting the same old replies:

"Why on earth would you want another one, you've got your pigeon pair"

"Two is hard enough"

"Two is expensive enough"

The negativity is really starting to give me the poos.

Is going from 2 to 3 seriously THAT bad? Is it much harder to cope? Is it really that much more expensive?
Thats all we heard for so long! just because we had the pigeon pair didnt mean we were finished! then when we fell pregnant with number 3 all i got was so when are you having a 4th! just because we wanted 3 ment we were having a 4th!
now my age gaps are close DS1 to DD 17months and DD to DS2 is 19months
now my older 2 were never planned that close but watching them be so close we wanted our 3rd to be close too, howeve we didnt plan on falling pregnant the day we decided to try and we didnt plan on DS2 being 3 weeks hence the 19month age gap i almost has 3 under 3years
To be honest i had a lot of help from family and it mader it much easier, (i had a traumatic birth and bad back) but seriously adjusting to 3 was easy and gets easier easier so fast! i watch my 3 now and LOVE IT! having said that i couldnt have a 4th so close again! (several reasons health of me mainly and i dont want a 4th)

so do what you wanna do
you and YOUR DH will have your number of children, forget others! xoxo