With each child I have found that I have had to become more organised and better skilled at watching the needs of my family and my self. I guess it's hard if you are feeling flattened by it and pulled around, but the more I can be objective and moving through what is needed before it is happening the easier things are. You get better at having things ready to go, and some things just have to give. With number three I was able to talk on the phone less and give up a few things that added stress to how the family rolled, but that was only for a few months until I got the knack of three. From what I have experienced people 'think' it's harder because they want things to stay the same, and even some people are not prepared to give anything up for the adjustments of a growing family. But like anything it's a time period that soon changes, eventually you will have time to do all the things you 'want' and have all the kids tended to... we are expecting number 4, I know we will be 'busier' (whatever that means we are busy already!!) But I know we can do it!!! It brings stuff up for people and you can hear it in their words if you truly listen. THey may not have been able to handle more then one or two and that's perfectly fine, but you can do it !!! Different strokes for different folks!