. I just do what she did to me to show her its not nice.
I hear this one from people too, i.e. the only way to stop them biting is to bite them back etc etc. Personally I want my child not to hit me in the face because they know it hurts and they don't want to hurt me, not because they're afraid of getting smacked in the face themselves. That's not really teaching them the real reason why they shouldn't do it, just to be afraid of you and do whatever you say. I agree that smacking can work sometimes, so can CIO, but the reason it works is not ok with me. I never ever want my child to feel afraid of me. I want to show them that we can work problems out together and they can come to me with anything.