Smug:- DD just turned 3 and can do 24 piece puzzles by herself.
She has the most amazing vocabulary
She is very independent
Crap:- refuses to eat anything I cook except for my spaghetti bolognaise or lasagna even things she used to scoff down.
She is the most stubborn kid
Can hold on most of the day (2 nappies used a day) and if naked will go to potty by self but put clothes on her she refuses. And not because she has trouble undressing
Smug:
That despite all the warnings I got for carrying my babes too much, co-sleeping feeding on demand and being gentle I have two fantastic, well adjusted little humans to share my life with. They are willing to believe in themselves because I do.
That same gentleness has shown my DH who previously had polar opposite parenting beliefs to mine that gentle parenting is the way we want to go forward together and he's so amazing in the stuff that he's learned and how he wants to show the kids.
That DS is happy to BF his babies
That the 6weeks of teething that each of my children went through to get 20 teeth each before 13months old went to prove how wrong my ILs were about their teething starting at 4 months
I am doing my very best
I found this site 6 years ago and it has shown me the type of parent I can/want to be
Crap:
I still have days where the wheels fall off and I don't feel like doing my best any more.
I've just dealt for 3.5years with Night Terrors with DD....and now DS has started but they more like 'you ain't seen nuthin yet....' (on the smug side though, my DD knows exactly what they are and what to/not to do)
Smug: DD1 can read and write her name and the word dad and speaks quite well for her age.
She can ride a motorbike alone, pour her own drinks and had no issue going from a cot to a big girl bed before she turned 2.
DD2 has an amazing vocabulary for her age and already speaks in sentences 5+ words.
She can count to 10 and is recognizing letters.
Crap: they both have a know it all attitude and throw massive tantrums to match.
DD2 spent the first year of her life attached to me and screaming if I moved out of site.
DD1 will jump, climb or move anything to do what she wants, giving me minor heart attacks.
Both are very fussy with food at the moment.
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- Sent from my iPhone, more than likely while I should be doing something else!
Smug:
I have BF DS1 for over 3 years and still going and tandem feeding both of them for 20 months in 2 days time!!
Boys get along well at times
Kiss and cuddle each other lots which is cute
DS1 amazes me every day with his speech development eh has come a long way since we were told to see a speech therapist over a year ago!
DS2 is cheeky and funny
DS1 went into a bed no trouble at 25 months
Both use an ipad and iphone with ease getting in and out of apps and videos they want
Crap:
DS2 bites DS1 and pinches.
DS1 not interested in TT
DS1 wont eat any fruit unless puree tubs apart from bannanna
DS2 wont eat any fruit apart from purree tubs apart from bannanna and strawberries.
Neither are great at eating vegies
DS2 wont sleep in cot
Smug:
DS3 is 21 months has a vocab of over 600 words.
He can count to 10, and 20 but all numbers between 13 and 16 are 'T-teen' as he can't quite pronounce them yet lol
He can recognise all the letters of the alphabet, and tell you what words begin with some letters.
He can find about 35+ countries on a world globe (one of his favourite games since his uncle showed him Australia when he was 16months old).
He has an awesome memory and will randomly start talking about things he did or people he saw 6 months ago or more (his memory is better than mine!)
He can navigate my smart phone, to find photos, watch videos (mostly of himself and his brothers) and call people for a chat.
He loves babies and tries to kiss cuddle and look after them.
He can't quite manoeuvre the mouse but will show you exactly where to scroll or click to get to what he wants to see on the computer.
He also has a great sense of humour
He is still breast fed at 21months, I stuck with it after a painful rocky start and it took about 2 months to become easy but we're still going strong!
Crap:
He has never slept well at night, although we are now down to between 4 and 6 wakes a night which is an improvement.
He has a super short attention span, he generally has never played on his own for more than 5 mins MAXIMUM. He requires constant attention and entertainment, which means my house is scary messy/dirty most days.
Too often for my liking I am cranky and easily frustrated
Smug:
DD1 is doing well at school, pretty much top of the class with reading, writing, maths
DD2 is out of night nappies!!! She was also brilliant with toilet training herself well before the age of 2.
Both girls are great little artists (now see crap point)
Crap:
The girls bring home way too much artwork, we are drowning in the stuff.
DD1 takes forever, and I mean forever, to eat it. It is so painful to deal with and then she is hungry 15 minutes later (really has not changed since a baby)
DD1 still wants me to wipe her bum (unlike her little sister)
DD2 wont sleep through and comes to our bed too early and just wiggles (would not care at 4 or 5am, but midnight is getting too much)
Both girls fight over music at night
SMUG
Both of my girls are generous, kind-hearted and accepting of other people
They've both got rhythm! AND know how to sing and dance and enjoy it!
We spend time together doing family activities and enjoying our time with each other
CRAP
Sometimes I'm a shouty mummy. And sometimes DH is a shouty daddy.
I failed somewhere with DD1 because she shovels her food like a 19th century pig farmer and *still* wipes her nose on her sleeve sometimes
DD2 watches more telly and eats more junk food than DD1 ever did at the same age
DD is kind, considerate and generally thoughtful of others
She loves playing the piano and is doing very well - even starting to make up her own tunes
She's curious about the world and loves learning
She's polite and well behaved, all our friends think she's a pleasure to have around
Crap:
She can be opinionated and a bit of a know it all
She has a short attention span and is easily distracted by other kids
She hates following instructions at the best of times
Smug :
* Every time I get him out of his cot in the morning, he's always smiling so brightly at me
* He's such an affectionate little boy, always coming to give me hugs.
Crap:
* He never answers his name when I call him by his name
* He just doesn't eat healthy (maybe half an apple here or there)
* He doesn't feed himself
* He doesn't let us feed him
* He doesn't eat full meals
* He barely says anything. Most he says is oops and no, and that's about (tonight he said mum mum for the first time in a long time!)
* He chucks the meanest tantrums when he doesn't get his way
More crap than smug, yep story of my life Makes me feel like crap *sighs*
Smug:
- DD can say Bird (although it sounds more like Turd)
- She signs for "finished" and "clean"
- She has a smile that lights up a room, and is not stingy with it.
- She feeds herself with a spoon, and is awesome to take out to restaurants
- She matches lids to pots
- We made it to Nine Months breastfeeding together.
- She sleeps in the car, carrier, arms, our bed or cot, and responds well to new places (so is easy to travel with!)
- She keeps her socks on
- She sleeps an 8-10 hour stretch at night
Crap:
- She sleeps for 30 minutes at a time, unless we have to be somewhere when she wakes up
- It's hard to keep up with her insatiable mental appetite for "things" to explore
- She spews in the night and I don't notice
- Her crap is seriously CRAP right now
- She prefers the pram to the carrier.
- While she loves boob, there is just option. Bottles = crap. Dummies = crap. EBM in a teacup = fun for a while, but not a source of nutrition.
Smug - Both my girls are growing into beautifull little girls
- DD1 is yet to show us anything that resembles the terrible 2's.
- The only word DD2 will say is mumma and I love it.
Crap - My girls are growing up way to quickly.
- DD1 is always sick and we have to wait up to a year for her operation.
Smug: I got a sleep in this morning!
Crap: I had to put DD1 in front of the television and fall asleep on the couch next to her to achieve the sleep in
Smug:
We bf to 19 months after a VERY rocky start and then biting/extreme pain at around 15-17 months. He never had any formula at all, despite all the problems and for that I'm really proud of myself.
DS is in cloth nappies during the day.
He has great language skills which means I can usually negotiate/reason/verbally plan ahead with him what is going to happen and he usually complies
We don't really have tantrums from DS, he just goes to bed to suck on his dummy for a few minutes when upset and then returns saying "I happy now!"
He is inquisitive and curious and loves learning new things and words which he remembers months later without reinforcement
He is developing good social skills and will share with others nearly all of the time and can make friends with random older children we see at the park etc
He will spontaneously use his manners about half the time without prompting!
He shares my love of Shaun the Sheep
He shares my love of books
Crap:
Wish I'd started having kids earlier as he may be my only now
Wish we'd kept feeding until he was 2 - he weaned because life got crazy, not because it was my choice or really his either
He is still not sleeping well and it drives me bonkers Wish I could just accept that he is not a great sleeper because then I wouldn't turn into the crazy-mother-from-hell most nights. I also wish that we'd tried co-sleeping a lot learlier as it doesn't always work well now when we do it.
We don't have close family support - they all live hours away - so it's usually just me and DP.
I hate answering questions about when we're having another
DS is the funniest little boy ever, he is forever cracking us up with his hilarious personality
He's slept 10+ hours every night (bar maybe 4 tops) since he was 8 weeks old
He has a routine you can set your clock by, which makes life far easier
Hes saying mum, dad, nan and bub and knows who all our pets are and will point out lightning McQueen when you ask him 'where's lightning?'
He's finally starting to stand unassisted
He adjusts to anything we throw at him like he's been doing it for years
Crap...
He is a professional tantrum thrower
You cannot alter his routine without serious consequences
I need to get my act together and feed him more nutritious, home cooked meals
I should WANT to spend more time with him rather than HAVING to
I just gave up BFing after 10 weeks without even trying to give it a good go
My PND still rears it's ugly head more often than I should allow and I take it out on DS
I'm not happy with my body and I can't keep blaming it all on being pregnant
I don't think I will cope with 2 babies under 15 months
I don't spend nearly enough quality time with my df
Smug
Moo is a very gentle little boy, doesn't get in other kids faces or hits out at anyone
Is becoming very social
Is the cutest kid ever
Knows his alphabet
Knows most colours
Can do puzzles that are 3+
Crap
Didn't sleep through until he was over one
Likes things to be a certain way and doesn't like change, think he is going to be very stubborn!
Only says about 20 words
Is going through a stage where he refuses to eat dinner
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