the more I think about it and what you girls have said, I think something is stopping her sleeping but she wants to sleep. rather than her just not wanting to go to sleep. because she looks tired =( bags and puffy eyes...and that soft cry that is as though she is too tired to make a real one.
most likely pain... but where? she has been doing this for atleast a month, but the last week it has gotten insanely bad, and each night is worse than the one before... would teeth last that long?
yesterday she refused to sleep all day...finally crashed at 630ish in her highchair, i got her and put her in her pjs and went to bed. I thought, yes, for sure she will sleep for a decent stretch after nothing all day! nope. she woke up at 730, settled pretty quickly, DH and I went to bed at 8 (ha 8pm on a sat night!), she woke again at 930. and wouldn't settle. 2hrs later of screaming and me rocking and singing and attempting to feed (she kept biting me). i finally got her settled at 1130.
awake again at 1...then at 330...briefly (think some of this time she was on my boob as we laid down..i cant remember, awake for reals at 430. another 2 hour scream...me rocking and singing, her biting me....we finally went back to bed at 630ish. and awake for the day at 830.

gave her panadol this time in both those screaming matches... i had given her neurofen previous night that didn't make a difference. I dont know if the panadol did...or if she just settled because she was so knocked around.

I can't wait until tomorrow when i can go to a dr...just one more night...one more night.... atleast then i can rule some things out.