My DS2 is 9 days old and after an anxiety ridden experience when DS1 was a newborn, I did everything I could to ensure that didn't happen again.
Anyway... I never thought I would/could, but I am dealing very well with having a newborn, enjoying it and have bonded immediately - all things that didn't happen right away with DS1.

However, I am feeling very guilty about neglecting DS1, he's 3. DH has taken a few weeks off and has been taking him out and spending lots of time with him... But I feel like he is missing out on mummy time.

Today DH had a couple of meetings he had to go to, so it was me and the boys DS1 and I put up the Xmas tree together, did some colouring and played with Lego, so I felt good.
And then bed time... It was shocking. DS1 basically had to go through his routine of teeth brushing, hand washing etc by himself, which was ok. When it came time for his bedtime story, DS2 was screaming for a feed so I was trying to feed him and read 2 books and tuck DS1 in at the same time. DS1 decided he wanted to call out to me a million times after I put him to bed, for just random time wasting things... Well I cracked and yelled at him, and he started crying. I put DS2 to bed, sat down and cried while listening to my big boy crying. I then went in an apologized and cried while hugging him.

So my point is... Have others felt guilty and how have you made it work so as not to neglect your older children?

Btw - I am fully aware that DS2 is only little and it'll get better eventually... AND that my hormones are probably all over the place at the moment!