RANT - when did we start frowning upon SAHM's?

[lady_neon]

Can somebody out there tell me when society started frowning upon stay at home mums or dads for raising their own kids?

A co-worker just rolled her eyes and said 'you have to for your own sanitiy, you won't last long' after she asked me whether I planned on coming back to work, when my response was no. Um, excuse me?!

I have no problem with women working after having children if that is their desire/financial situation. I realise every situation is different, that is their choice and none of my business. But for the love of all things holy don't frown upon me because I refuse to do that!

DH & I have concluded that we wanted this baby, therefore WE are going to raise this baby, and thankfully he earns enough so that I am able to raise my own child. Obviously we need to make some sacfrices and NOT buy a huge, beautiful house in a green, leafy suburb.. but we feel it is more important that baby has his mumma and we'll survive in a modest home in a modest suburb. I might at some point go back and work a couple of days a week, or put baby in day care one day a week for social time, or have a day with granma. But essentialy, we have decided that we prefer to put in as much time as humanly possible to care for our baby.