DD has helped me for as long as I can remember - when she was a toddler, she was to put her own toys away (i would help of course) until she was 4, then she done it on her own.

When we visit a relatives/friends house she MUST clean up after herself. It BUG the S**T out of me, when children come to our place and leave a mess! DD knows that if we have guests if you play with something you put it away - so sometimes she comes and dobs on them for not putting their things away No doubt some ppl get cranky, but I dont care, this is my house, and we do not play in living rooms (we have too many breakables) we do not have feet on the lounge etcnd if you dont like my rules dont come here - Teach your children manners! HAHA

We have had a few issues obviously, but my punishment is if its a toy (for eg) I WILL throw it out, i dont care what it is, if I have repeatedly asked you to do something, and you are ignoring me, see how many toys we can throw in the bin, it wont bother me if all your toys are in the bin!

We had a bit of an issue early on in the year where i had to keep telling DD more than twice do clean her room - In the end I told her if I have to tell her again I will get rid of EVERYTHING in her room, she can sleep on tiles & some other child will have fun with her Wii, tv, psp, dsi, stereo, bed, etc. It got done - and gets done everyday! DD knows I WILL do what I say.

DD is now 8, and I have to remind her about putting away her homework, bag etc. I dont have an angry tone often - but when i haveTHAT tone she knows to watch out thats all i generally have to do.

I also agree with the chart - not too sure on the ages of your kids, but its a good way for them to be a bit competitive with each other (in a good way) something like whoever has the most stars at the end of the week is allowed extra game time.

I dont agree with rewarding children with food - i feel this creates an emotional eating pattern. Personally, I would STOP buying lollies & treats for them, until you are convinced there has been change. DONT feel bad for doing it!! This will teach your children responsibility and respect. Your partner will also have to work with you on this otherwise it will be too hard.