Eek. I guess that what I think they need to know is that it's not an accurate depiction of life, gender or sexuality.
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Eek. I guess that what I think they need to know is that it's not an accurate depiction of life, gender or sexuality.
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Pretty much that. I'm pretty secure that when the time comes they will learn through us what is healthy and what is not. My husband doesn't objectify women, and I don't objectify men. And this is the foundations for a healthy view for all things relating to sexuality including pornography. I do believe in the monkey see, monkey do when it comes to all aspects of parenting. And I am not in anyway saying that all porn is wrong. But I understand where you are coming from.
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I'd agree with Rouge and Onyx...
Probably a bit the way I would describe a dildo - it doesn't look, feel or sound much like the real thing, but that doesn't mean it has no place in one's bedroom.
Teaching my daughters to have respect for themselves and to have a love for themselves will go along way I think, to ensuring a healthy respect for pornography, including its limitations and falsehoods.
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I don't have a problem with porn. Doesn't interest me so much & I didn't mind ex watching it. BUT I will be making it very clear that none of it is real & they're all pretending to enjoy what they're doing for money. Ex didn't seem to get that alot of that stuff just isn't reality for most people & that that is OK.
And none of the women actually look like that!
I don't think I'll be any different between the girls & the boy. The girls need to know they don't have to act like that & the boy needs to know that he can't expect that.
I really hope they aren't introduced to porn til they're in an established sexual relationship & they know what they will & won't accept & what reality is... but I know that I'm probably not living in reality there!
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