Ok, so I had a conversation with a friend last night who told me that I had to remember that I wasn't ''just a mother'' and lots of other things about stopping feeding to sleep/co-sleeping and a bunch of other stuff that I feel quite strongly about and have no intention of stopping. She also said that she was worried at how much I'd thrown myself into motherhood. I'm completely happy being a mother and if I wanted my life to stay the same I wouldn't have had a baby. I have loads of reasons for parenting the way I do (as do we all) and no intention of stopping any of them. I am angry that she seemed to think being a Mummy was second best, but that's another story

BUT I am curious about how others feel about the balance between being a mummy and being yourself. I feel like there's a symbiotic relationship with my son and I, like, it's not his needs vs my needs and if his needs are being met then mine arent, it's more like if he's happy then I'm happy and vice versa.

What's your balance between self and Mummy, when did you feel ok about leaving your child and how do you nurture yourself? Do you feel like you've given anything up or lost anything?