Thanks so much everyone - I have recently been contemplating the old adage that it "takes a village to raise a child" BB and you guys are definitely part of my village - so THANKS!!!

The judgment free advice is sooooo appreciated - Thanks LZ, TM, Kaz, Santosha and Beckoes and Nelle - you all have some great advice!!!

Special mention/thanks to Marydean - I am going to print your wonderful post for future and further reference!!! (I just repped you for another thread so can't do it again - have to spread the love )