Okay...
I just want to clarify myself:
* I don't condone or advocate CC for babies under 6 months
* I don't believe you should leave babies crying - and I was not taught to do that at sleep school. I think it is called Controlled Comforting - and there is a difference.
* and if controlled crying works for some people - then I respect that too.
* I respect and admire the mothers that comfort parent. But I also realise that those techniques don't work for all people; and mother & baby can suffer if something isn't working.
* I am not attacking anyones choices. I don't disagree with the comfort parenting techniques. But I am open-minded enough to acknowledge that different techniques work for different people.

Further to this:
* there are statistics on BOTH sides of the debate. No-one is right or wrong. People just have different opinions on what works for THEIR baby. And everyone's opinion should be respected.
* Kelly: you say it's your duty to give information on both sides of the fence... but you're only giving information/links about your negative CC experience... so I don't see that as "both sides". As the owner of this forum, some mothers may feel scared to oppose your way of thinking.
* I just think it's a little unfair that anti-CC links are able to be posted (ie: anti-CC articles that have been posted within BB).... when some information about CC is probably not going to be allowed (Kelly: if I allowed to provide a link please let me know).
* and as pointed out above maggie asked about Controlled Crying - not comfort parenting.

* Maggie posted in the General Parenting section. If she was after Comfort Parenting advice - there is a whole section that she could have sought advice.

As I have said over and over.... I am not against comfort parenting. I think it's wonderful. I have co-slept with my son since his birth and will continue to do so. I am a SAHM, and I don't employ nannies to take care of my child. But some aspects of comfort parenting don't work for everyone. I just feel that everyone should be respected. If someone askes for advice about CC in the general area then they shouldn't be pressured to think they are bad for even considering it.... by providing all the negative stories about it.

I realise Belly Belly is Kelly's website - and she/you are pro-comfort parenting. But it would be nice if all mothers were welcome on this forum. It would be nice that if people asked for information about controlled crying they could get some positive information about it.

The same with breast feeding. That is another whole subject within itself. But bottle feeding mothers seem to be condemned to hell, and that upsets me so much. I tried so hard to breast feed my baby. I bought 4 breast pumps, I went to lactation clinics, I tried everything. But there was just no milk, and my baby was losing huge amounts of weight as a result of everyone pushing "breast is best". It's common knowledge that breast milk is best. There is no denying that at all. And I can't imagine too many women who would chose to give their baby anything but the best they can offer. But if you have no milk (probably due to lack of sleep) - then you should not feel guilty about it. I don't want to open a whole debate about breast/bottle feeding. I just want to use that as an example of how some mothers are made to feel really uncomfortable by the comments on this forum.

Having said that... this is a wonderful forum, and I have got tons of useful information and made some wonderful friends from this forum. I think that this is one of the best baby forums on the web. I just think that everyone's parenting techniques should be respeceted and no mother should be condemned or made to feel uncomfortable for what they choose to do with their own child.

I haven't been offended by anyone (I've got really tough skin)... and I never post anything with the intention of offending others. I just want to see information provided without negativity.