I think there are far too many sites out there already that are just 'free for all' in terms of not having a focus, and it's the reason I started my own site, because I was sick of the same old thing. I'm passionate about this stuff, I live and breathe it hence I couldn't NOT be involved in my own forums. Many people have said to me it's the reason they love BB, because they feel they are becoming more knowledgable, informed and empowered compared to other sites.

Believe it or not there are other websites more hard core than this one! It's a great balance between mainstream and what you would call alternative. It's also a very important business rule - you don't change anything that works. Big mistake.

Like some previous posts about various topics in here, it's great to make an informed decision, no matter what you choose. If you choose to bottlefeed over breastfeed, then good-o, you have made an informed decision. But you have to get informed first. Once you have both sides of the story you can make an informed decision. If the original poster (sorry to speak about you in third person!) was to come back in here (which she already has!) and say, 'I have weighed up both options and 'xxx' is my decision', then I would say, great stuff, well done on making a decision for YOU! Matter over.

But it's perfectly okay for people who are asking to be presented with information from both sides (again, especially when she was happy with what she was already doing and didn't really say she wanted to change). Yes the site has a gentle bias, as Fiona said, it's because it is designed to be a gentle/no cry solutions parenting site. And I am really proud as a result to see more and more women wanting Doulas, VBACs, determined to breastfeed next time, wearing their babies... I know BB has helped them. I even support women at birth and sometimes they have caesars - and that doesn't bother me because I know they had best intentions or gave it their best shot and they had both sides of information.

Freedom of information should rule, then support given with that decision. It's unfair that someone has come in here for support, has been given various information and this has turned into a huge thing for someone else when the intention was never to attack anyone or judge anyone - maybe ask yourself why you feel judged? I have done CC and I certainly don't feel judged. I'm saying it again, if it works for you - GREAT! It's wonderful that it has helped you immensely.

Why can't we all just give our 5c worth based on information and our own experiences, and leave innocent people seeking help to make their own decisions?