I feel the same way Bek - and after reading a few articles about how the charts ARE (or seem to be) promoting rewards for everyday behaviour I stopped it and stick to cuddles and praise. I also mention the good behaviour at bedtime when we are doing our wind down chat.

Having said that, with a Sensory boy, I have got a chart on his bedroom door with all the things he has to do in the mornings - make bed, brekky, brush teeth etc so he can tick it off, but there isn't any rewards it just helps him keep track of his responsibilities.