OK, well our "chart" of expected daily activities and chores is tied into the things that the kids expect daily themselves. Our biggest bargaining chip in a long time has been the Wii.

Our kids are "earning" house money when they do a chore, or something that they should be doing but don't like to. They have a set payday, and they are paid the house money they earnt that week. They can then trade that in for time on the wii or PS2, or they can trade $5 house money for $1.

Its a negotiation, a skill and a working model for us. I don't have to buy them anything new or spoil them, its just withholding that which they expect from us until they have shown that they can do that which is expected from them. The older two even need to earn credit on their phones, so that keeps them motivated.

However if they need to be reminded to do it, they don't get credited for it. There is no list of chores on the wall - they have to remember it because it is what they have to remember to do anyway. The only chart on the wall here is the Wii time booking chart so there is no fights over "MY TURN" which I recommend for EVERYONE for anything that needs to be shared whether they are earning time or not. Its a sanity saver.