Wow, this article has really made me think! I've never been comfortable with leaving my babies "cry it out" despite being told to by a number of well meaning friends and relatives. But then again, i didn't want to risk "spoiling" them either - it seemed no matter what, I was going to do the wrong thing anyway.

I'm now convinced that letting my kids cry when they need me or want to feel safe is not the way to go - for me anyway.

I know when I feel scared or alone I just want someone to cuddle or hold me and tell me its ok. Why wouldn't my little babies. But like I said, this is just what I feel is best for us.

I agree though, this is such a difficult area, and parenting always comes down to choices we are forced to make, who's to say who's right, and who's wrong? We're all just trying to get through each day as best we can, doing the only thing we feel is right for us.