Just Let Her Cry..... (CC/CIO)

[BellyBelly]

Has BellyBelly degraded other peoples methods and decisions? Is that absolutely true? Or is that what you believe to be true?

[Bumperstump Cummerbund]

Has BellyBelly degraded other peoples methods and decisions? Is that absolutely true? Or is that what you believe to be true?

I don't believe BB has degraded other methods, thats not what I meant to convey. BB can be very informative, a great learning tool for finding out different options. But to publish an article that says parents who use certain methods 'suck at being parents at night' or 'broke their child like an animal', I FEEL, will do more harm than good, and is not in keeping with what I know of BB's philosophy - does that make sense?

It's great that there are parents on here who have researched and made their choices - whatever the choices ended up being. But comments like the above don't encourage further research, they are the equivalent of saying CC/CIO is wrong, and WE are right. It's the black and white issue that Nelle was talking about.

I'm not trying to be argumentative, and I'm not trying to cause offence - I'm just trying to point out that this article, while predominantly helpful, may also undermine new mums who are already overwhelmed because evryone seems to say, 'Do what I tell you or you're doing it WRONG'.

[BellyBelly]

No offense taken I promise I obviously read the article earlier today, took from it what I did, and the comments didn't bother me, because I didn't take them to heart - they weren't directed at me, even though I have tried CIO before. They are just her words and her comments, thoughts on a blog, not being said directly to me, to my face. It's not how I would choose to write it, but I don't want to reinvent the wheel and duplicate the idea and I don't also want to edit her work. Perhaps you could reply to her blog so you can respond directly to the author?

[girlonamission]

Wow, this article has really made me think! I've never been comfortable with leaving my babies "cry it out" despite being told to by a number of well meaning friends and relatives. But then again, i didn't want to risk "spoiling" them either - it seemed no matter what, I was going to do the wrong thing anyway.

I'm now convinced that letting my kids cry when they need me or want to feel safe is not the way to go - for me anyway.

I know when I feel scared or alone I just want someone to cuddle or hold me and tell me its ok. Why wouldn't my little babies. But like I said, this is just what I feel is best for us.

I agree though, this is such a difficult area, and parenting always comes down to choices we are forced to make, who's to say who's right, and who's wrong? We're all just trying to get through each day as best we can, doing the only thing we feel is right for us.

[Willow]

I don't believe BB has degraded other methods, thats not what I meant to convey. BB can be very informative, a great learning tool for finding out different options. But to publish an article that says parents who use certain methods 'suck at being parents at night' or 'broke their child like an animal', I FEEL, will do more harm than good, and is not in keeping with what I know of BB's philosophy - does that make sense?

It's great that there are parents on here who have researched and made their choices - whatever the choices ended up being. But comments like the above don't encourage further research, they are the equivalent of saying CC/CIO is wrong, and WE are right. It's the black and white issue that Nelle was talking about.

I'm not trying to be argumentative, and I'm not trying to cause offence - I'm just trying to point out that this article, while predominantly helpful, may also undermine new mums who are already overwhelmed because evryone seems to say, 'Do what I tell you or you're doing it WRONG'.

Gotta spread the love, but I couldn't have said it better myself!