Tough one, mrsmac. DP doesn't always agree with everything I do, but usually defers (doesn't have much choice LOL). I don't always agree with the way he behaves in front of DD, but usually he will recognise that it's not the right thing to do (he just has trouble stopping himself at the time, ie shouting, swearing, etc).

TBH, I think it's the parent whose behaviour/style is disrespectful (towards you, your child, or other people) who tends to destroy their credibility and relationship with their child in the end. If there's a clear disconnect in that relationship, then that's an easy way to point out that it's not working for them. Even at three, DD is not as close to DP because of the way he behaves (and it's not even directed at her). So I'd hope that if you're the open and respectful parent, your DD is learning that from you. Her attitude towards her father and men in general might be something else.