Kids with an authoritarian parent will usually be more well behaved and generally do better... but all those kids break out at a point, enough is enough and they will rebel. Who likes to behave out of fear? I think it would be good for you to learn it though so your kids have an outlet through you and know you are 'safe' - you can foster a good bond with them and srengthen the relationship with you so they will come to you and tell you things they wouldnt tell him. They will end up with way more respect for you.