[QUOTE=The Flying Butter;3170446]Look into the legalities.

I know a friend of mine went through this with her DS and XH. The XH wanted full custody and was not prepared to give up any of his long work hours, his girlfriend would do school pick ups. The courts said no, family member of the DS or paid person, not a girlfriend. So the DS's grandmother or a Nanny (egs) could pick him up/take him to lessons, but not a girlfriend. Cos if something happens (heaven forbid) the hospital cannot act unless it is a blood relative OR a paid person who has a sheet of paper to say they can act on a child's behalf. De facto relationship wouldn't count here.

Plus, if you want to do swimming lessons - tell your X no, you're doing swimming lessons or it HAS to be on a day you can attend too.

Very very interesting and i will look into it