Thanks for your words, Fiona.
My son is my first, so yes, that's probably a reason why everything is so raw with navigating the sea of parenting. I have DD who is 20 months, and though she's only little, she already appears VERY different in temperate than DD. For instance, on the days they go to childcare together, I drop the 1 yr old off first, and she's like "Bye bye!" and good to go, whereas the 3 yr old is the crying one. Always makes me kind of chuckle. (and if you throw supposed gender stereotypes into the mix as well).

anyways, thank you thank you for your words!