Ellie
here to hold your hand as well!
I had the same fear 2 weeks ago at my 12 week scan
Like you - had lots of probs getting pg- used IVF as well - six goes
I lost my last bubba when i went for my 12 week scan- bubba had apparently died the day before
This was a la naturale miracle
I was soo petrified at my 12 week scan that as soon as he put the u/s on and i saw and confirmed a h/beat i bawled my eyes out- it was the most beautiful sound i had ever heard. Was even more relieved when n/fold came up trumps as well
Being sick is such a good and reassuring sign!!!
You have a 70% chance of going full term and having a healthy baby pre- 12 weeks and a 60% chance if you have had a m/c previous!! Pretty good odds i say!
Hang on to this hope!!!!! It keeps you sane!
Good luck and will be sending postiive vibes your way
take care
Odette, this is our miracle pregnancy too...totally gave up moved to the country and here we are- after 10 years of chlomid, IUI, Ivf, Icsi, FET we did it all on our own!
I totally get the bursting into tears at the scan...we went to Perth for your 6 week scan and I went packed for a week long hospital visit...had all the options covered...etopic...blighted ovum...prepared for surgery of some sort and then there was our baby with a beautiful heartbeat...I lost it! So Iguess this fear is to be expected...I just hope this little one is coming home...I'm so tired from trying to keep it all together...6 more sleeps!!!
Ellie, I know how you feel. I had my scan last week at 13 weeks and I was terrified. I had just lost a baby at 8 wks and found out at a scan that it had gone So I was so afraid of the scan even though I'd already seen a healthy baby at 9wks this time (after some very scary spotting). I had no indication that anything was wrong either but couldn't get the thought out of my head and then was even thinking that the fact I was so worried must mean something, maybe I subconciously knew it wasn't going to be ok. LOL, of course everything is perfect. I think it's kinda a way of protecting ourselves so that if something is wrong we will be prepared. I'm sure everything will be fine and once you see that little baby on the screen you will be so relieved and can just enjoying watching the little bub splash around in there, lol, it was the best thing ever once I realised it was in there and its heart was beating. Good luck, I will be thinking of you
I truly understand the fear that you are feeling. It's a post traumatic response really and it is felt by everyone who has suffered losses, especially repeated ones.
I lost 3 mid trimester babies and they were all discovered on u/s. So my fear levels were absolutely through the roof. I was beside myself and I wouldn't have made it through without all of the wonderful friends on BB and my fabulous obs. She u/s me weekly to apease me and each time we each sighed a huge sigh. Most often I just burst into tears of relief.
So, I hear you - you are experiencing a terrifying thing and we are all here to support you and hold your hand.
The 25th is my 41st birthday and I will be here thinking of you and sending you all my support.
Oh ladies...I put my mascara on this morning convinced I could have a 'blubber' free day...and your kind words have turned me into a 'panda' with mascara and tears running down my face...I look a sight! Thank you all so much...I wish there was a way to express how much your suppport means to me...just being able to express all my fears out loud and to be heard and understood is such a comfort and blessing...thank you xxx
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I know how you feel. I had my scan last week at 13 weeks and I was terrified. I had just lost a baby at 8 wks and found out at a scan that it had gone
So I was so afraid of the scan even though I'd already seen a healthy baby at 9wks this time (after some very scary spotting). I had no indication that anything was wrong either but couldn't get the thought out of my head and then was even thinking that the fact I was so worried must mean something, maybe I subconciously knew it wasn't going to be ok. LOL, of course everything is perfect. I think it's kinda a way of protecting ourselves so that if something is wrong we will be prepared. I'm sure everything will be fine and once you see that little baby on the screen you will be so relieved and can just enjoying watching the little bub splash around in there, lol, it was the best thing ever once I realised it was in there and its heart was beating. Good luck, I will be thinking of you
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