Hey there

I apologise if this all comes out a bit scrambled.. its a hard thing to talk about sometimes

I think it will be a hard thing for you to do.. i lost both a boy and a girl, and then had a boy and a girl, with my first son though- i lost him very early (18weeks) so he had no distinguishable features really, so i didnt really physically have anything to then compare my son to. With my daughter however, i had lost Zahra at close to full term, and i was astounded by how much DD looked like her sister! It made sense of course, but it still shocked me. I did find those first few months hard. Especially when she was sleeping as i had only ever seen her sister "sleeping" so that was hard. I did even have a slip of the tongue once or twice and almost refer to her as Zahra. I think its hard too that you had hopes and dreams and ideas about how your angel son would be and grow up, and now you will have two boys who may or may not look the same, or remind you of your angel. It brought back to me what i had really lost when i lost Zahra, and i kind of grieved all over again.

Sorry that i cant come in and say "no dont worry it wont effect you at all" but its not the truth, for me anyway.

I am sure that whatever emotions get brought up for you, you wil be ok though. You will have two gorgeous babies to love and you will be ok, but yeah, it might be hard and it will mean a bit of emotional understanding