No offence taken whatsoever, lovely ladies You haven't said anything I didn't already have swirling around my mind anyway

Maybe rather than acknowledge Ianto in the actual invitation, I could ask that people donate to Bonnie Babes or something in lieu of gifts? Some people will most likely still bring gifts (maybe even the ones they originally bought for Ianto) but it's probably better than ending up with a house full of stuff I won't use... Then again, I would like to receive some gifts I actually would use... Maybe I'll say "any gifts given that won't be used will be sold on eBay so the money wasted can be given to charity"