thread: Pregnancy after Late Loss, Recurrent Miscarriage or Stillbirth ~ November 2010

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    I reckon the doofus would do it though I'm so torn, I don't want to be induced at all, but I want to meet this baby now! That's why I'm convincing myself that every twinge is something important I frustrate myself sometimes *sigh*


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    Better to keep cooking Cookie for a wee bit longer hun, you'll meet bubbie soon enough! Try and rest and relax as much as possible before bub comes, believe me, you'll need all the energy for the birth and when bubbie is here! lol.

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    Hi girls

    Teni I sooo hear you on wanting the bub out! I am so ready! But as Miss B said, our little ones are probably better off baking a little while longer if we can hold out!

    Laney, that blood clot doesn't sound good. Hope the thinners do the trick.

    Miss B, I can't believe Cam is almost 1!! How fast time has gone! Is your DH still in China?

    AFM, nothing much to report. Stitch is still in as my ob wants to take it at 38 weeks like he did last time. Bubs is still not engaged which apparently isn't unusual in subsequent pregnancies but it is a little annoying because my ob won't commit 100% to the stitch removal date and induction in case baby changes position. I have to see him again on the 28th when I will be 38w+1 and he will do an internal and see what is going on in there. Yay, that will be fun! If all is good, he will take the stitch a few days after that in the labour ward. In the meantime I have a fitball I plan to take up position on in a bid to encourage the baby to move into a nice position. It is still head down at this stage so I am trying to stay positive that it will remain that way as I really, really, really want another vaginal birth.
    This morning I woke at 4.30am with some pains that were radiating into my back and had to go to the toilet for more than a wee () which never happens at that hour of the morning and I had tightenings but they fizzled out after a little bit. Maybe I won't make it to the next appt...wishful thinking I am sure
    I'll keep you posted anyway - Laney, maybe if you see any updates on facebook from me about birth you can let the ladies here know for me if you don't mind?

    Take care everyone xx

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    DH is home safe and sound! Maybe now things will calm down a little bit around here.
    I have another doctor appt. on Wed. I had an ultrasound done on my leg and they didn't see a clot. I am going to assume that with my history and a bunch of clot symptoms, I will still have to be on blood thinners for a while.

    Jo, I will be stalking you on FB! I will be sure to post as soon as I see any news! I can't believe that it is time already!

    Miss.B I cannot believe you are planning a first b-day party already! It sure does go fast! Anymore news on when you are going to be ready to try for another bubba?

    Teni, those last couple of weeks are very difficult and long. Make sure you have a few date nights and enjoy your last few sleep ins

    Dory, Grayson is doing really well, thanks for asking. He really enjoys getting out of the house more and playing with other kids. It is difficult for all of us to get used to such a big change in our routine but I know that it will get easier. It has to!
    I missed your post about the blizzard! It just missed us! It is still very cold and we have a little snow but a warm up is on the way!

    Dory, I just noticed that you have an angel day coming up. Know that I will be thinking of you.

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    Teni - I am with Jo and B - it's pretty normal to want to meet Cookie, NOW, especially as the pregnancy discomforts increase and you draw nearer to your EDD. But I understand your feelings, had them myself not that long ago.... I kind of convinced myself that I WOULD enjoy every week of my pregnancy and I got to 40, and then it was time for HB to make her entrance, fashionably early. Keep strong, you can do it.

    Laney - thankyou... I love the new photo of Brexton - look at his dark hair! What a cutie! Glad Grayson is going well with his new routine. It must be challenging to get more than one little one out the door. Glad DH got back from the middle east ok.... he's not going back any time soon is he?

    We are finally going to inter the ashes for all our bubs on 23rd Feb. Will be a big day. 2 years to the day and time that our lives were so dramatically changed- when we truly knew love and heartache all at once. As you know it feels like only yesterday..... but I am so glad to have emerged from the shadow of the desperate and overwhelming grief. I am a bit worried it will all descend on me again on Wednesday... really it's like having their funerals all over again. But ... it's time.

    I just couldn't face the prospect of doing it while I was pregnant with Hannah, as in all honesty I truly didn't believe I would bring her home, and it always seemed that before then I was pregnant or in the pit of despair with grief and didn't have the money either.... it's all a very expensive business really. But, the time is right now.

    We've ( well I am making arrangements, DH says he doesn't know what he wants and has always been happy with what I've done before he says), had some balloons printed with an inscription - "beloved babies, Amelia, Nicholas and Sophie - loved eternally - fly free" So we'll be releasing some balloons - all different colours - just like a rainbow. I've also arranged to release some butterflies. I am going to prepare a little booklet, with some special words from DH and I in it, we've done one for each of the funerals, so why not for the interrment? We have some music to play. I have asked a friend to take some photos. It will only be DH, myself and Hannah, but I would like some photos to remember the day. It will be outside, rain, hail or shine. It's pretty hot weather here at the moment.

    Jo - I am soooooooooooooooooooo excited for you. I remember asking my obs to take my stitch out at 37 and he resolutely said no 38. Even an extra week can make a difference. Did you have steroids to help bubs lungs develop the surfactant ( in case bubs came early)?

    Beata aka Miss B - I am so disorganised when it comes to planning - actually no - the planning is good, I just have trouble with the deciding what I want to do. GL with organising Cam's 1st birthday... I am already thinking vaguely about Hannah's and still have no idea.

    Powelly - how are you going? You've gone quiet.....

    AFM - well for about 90 mins today I thought I was mad to be wanting to TTC again..... little miss Hannah was just overtired or a bit hot, and she was grizzling and crying. I am ashamed to say I did raise my voice a little after an hour - telling her she was just being silly and it was enough. But then I picked her up and wiped away the tears from her blotchy red face and we had a shower together. Anyway, about 20 mins after the shower, she managed to drop off to sleep after a quick feed ( afterall all that grizzling is tiring. I would prefer her not to have her afternoon nap at 4.30pm but she needed it, and it would be cruel to her and intolerable to me to try to stretch her out to a later time to fit in with our usual routine. Ahh I hear her ... short nap I guess.

    I'll be back sometime.

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    I suppose I should've explained better... I don't really want to get Cookie out ASAP, it's only an idle fantasy at best. There's no way I'll be agreeing to an induction unless they give me a very good reason I know he/she needs to stay in until we're both ready, I just selfishly want to meet my baby. Not this week though. The "eviction papers" won't be handed over until mid next week, once Ianto's birthday is over and done with.

    Some of you might have seen it on FB, but they've stopped asking me about induction () and now I just have to have weekly CTGs and fluid checks. It's better than what I was going to suggest if they brought up induction again, so I'm quite happy

    Dory, if I'm not on over the next couple of days, happy birthday to your Amelia

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    Hi Guys - sorry for being MIA :-)

    Dory, wow, anniversaries are hard, sometimes harder when you have a baby in your arms as you know the true extent of what you lost. My heart is with you as you remember your gorgeous angel and know you will get through the day as strong as you can be.

    Teni - That's really exciting about less induction talk. And I think we all sympathise with why you were saying you wanted your bub out. I felt the same way with my DS. I just wanted him safely in my arms and when I got to 37 weeks I was like "just get him out" but he stayed another two weeks and surprised me at 39 weeks. Try and keep your mind busy, do some relaxation etc and it won't be long before you have your precious bundle.

    Laney - glad to hear Grayson is going well! And that the clots seem to be clearing up :-)

    As for me, just taking one day at a time. Bub is moving a lot now which is so reassuring and as I'm still not showing at all, it's nice to know there is something in there and that feeling exhausted, emotional and sick is all for a reason :-) I have my 19 week scan coming up in three weeks and feel so nervous about it. It was at that scan we were told we were having a son, and then that he was very ill and I still remember wanting to vomit on the ultrasound bed. I knew this stage would be hard but I'm finding it harder this time around. I guess as I said before, now that I have DS I truly know what I lost first time around. Also had a scare over the weekend with a terrible low pressure pain "down there", It felt like bub's head was literally hanging in the birth canal. I rang the hospital who said that unless there was cramps and bleeding, that hopefully all would be fine. So I turned online and started freaking out that I was having symptoms of incompetent cervix. Didn't sleep a wink that night! Oh the joys...

    Emotionally, doing better. I still have my days but the happy/less stressed ones are outweighing the worried/nervous ones. Big hugs to all :-)