Beata- wow you are getting close now. How are you going? Did you do anything for Fat Tuesday?
Ellie - you are truly inspiring.
MrsWpilgrim - My ob says that for some women, there will be no answers. It seems I am one of those. I suppose the positive thing about not having answer is that I have had so many tests and investigations, that I know what I don't have. I have just accepted for me there are no answers, at least so far, the babies were just not meant to be.
I have also accepted that for me there are absolutely no guarantees in pregnancy and as scared as I am of more losses, I just try to cherish each day of the pregnancy, because I don't know how long I will have the pregnancy. Treasuring each day is what helps me get through. Also having a wonderfully sensitive ob who takes my calls and who sees me when I need reassurance, helps too. As does coming here to BB. I mean look at Ellie - what a heartbreaking journey, but she persevered and now has achieved her dream.
Teagz - love the photo of Jackson. Congratulations.
Laney - glad you found an ob that was sensitive to your anxiety and willing to provide reassurance.
Good to hear everyone else is going well too.
I am a recent escapee from the recurrent m/c thread ( 9 weeks pg) and thought I'd touch base in here. I have recently ceased wok on my ob advice, and so far so good, but only 3rd day in. But like everything, one day at a time.
I would dearly love to get a ticker up and running but I post so much in the m/c forums I am worried I will forget to turn the ticker off. So the end result is that I don't have one.
I am so terribly sorry for the loss of your precious son Cash. He is forever with you and he will help you through. Good luck.
My ob doesn't refer to my experiences as m/c but rather extremely premature labour. Interesting, but makes it less devastating for me somehow. I still say recurrent m/c though in these threads as it's easier to explain?
hi ladies, just wondering if i can join you beautiful ladies, I lost my first child, a daughter, three years ago yesterday, she was stillborn at nearly 38 weeks, i have a subsequent child, a son, who will be 2 in may and am just over halfway pg with my third now, just finding i am struggling a bit at the moment, i don't know if its to do with my daughters anniversary or what, but just wanting to chat with you ladies, as i am looking for anything to get me through. i have been in this thread before, around 2 years ago and i found the group of ladies i was with to be tremendously helpful. so i hope to be also able to give something back too, so any questions please ask.
i will read up to do some personals, so sorry for my rudeness
I was also hoping to join this thread too- i am 19 weeks pregnant with number four baby. I have two angels- Darren who we lost at 18 weeks (organ abnormailties), and Zahra who we lost at 36weeks to a placental abruption and one earth angel DS who is 18 months old.
I have been particiapting in the normal belly buddies thread- and that has been ok- but i had a couple of days there were a silly gp told me bubs hb was slow and i had two days til my morph scan and spent the whole time stressing and didnt feel comfortable really sharing that fear in there... i should have come right here- but i soldiered on, got to my scan and it was all ok thankfully! But the reminder of that stress has stayed with me and i think it might be time to join other ladies who have an idea of what i am going through.
I recognise some names in here, DS just woke up so i will go for now and pop back in later to say more xox
Hi Starbright...congratulations on your pregnancy! You're definately in the right place to share your fears hun...it's a long road...day by day...breath by breath if need be...great news about your scan...look forward to sharing the journey with you xxx
StarBright! Congratulations! It is great to "hear" from you. I am sorry that your GP added to your worry before your big scan. I hope that you are able to relax a little now that everything went well. I was strangely just thinking of you and a few of the other ladies that I have not chatted with in a long time.
I would love to post with a "normal" bellybuddies group with my next pregnancy but I have a hard time reading what some women with easy and worry free pregnancies write. I would also hate to give anyone extra fears with my posts. I post in the parenting after loss thread but it just isn’t the same. Right now I really don't fit into any forums.
Klee, your story and name are familiar to me. I think we were in this forum together before. Congratulations and welcome back.
dory, have fun staying home and relaxing. I have always had the same trouble with a ticker. Too afraid that I will have to turn it off too soon
beata, not long now! How have you been holding up?
AFM, it is time to start TTC again. I hate the two week wait. I am keeping my fingers crossed that this will be our month and at least the getting pregnant part will be over with. I can then stress about everything else.
Last edited by Laney; February 19th, 2010 at 01:58 AM.
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Laney... i often do a stalk check on you to see how you are going!! I am sorry to read about your early chemical loss. Hopefully this month will be your month!! I know what you mean about not fitting in anywhere too- for some reason i always felt comfy in the preg thread- even before i was pregnant too- our whole ttc thread in my last pregnancy pretty much all moved to the preg thread before we were pregnant!! I think it brought us all luck too- so i hope it does the same to you!!
Sorry again for slack personals... i had a quick read through and sweet congrats to mrswpilgrim and dory for your bfps- it is long journey and i sincerly hope that it will be a successful one for everyone!!! A big to everyone for your losses.
"I just wanted to know how people coped with the worry that something will go wrong? "
That is the million dollar question- you dont and you just do. It is normal to be freaked out- and scared about things that "normal' pregnant women just dont blink an eye at- a perfect example is my stupid gp mentioning in passing the hb was a bit slow- "but dont worry" he said. Yeah freaking right i wont - thanks for that!!!!!
You learn to set milestones and get whatever reassurance you can or need- a good ob who allows you to have "crazy lady scans" (which are scans where the main purpose is just to show you that bubs is alive and kicking) is a godsend. And once you get further along- make friends with the midwives at the hospital- you can stop by the hospital anytime you are scared and request a ctg- which is a machine that measures bubs heart rate and movements. You dont get to "see" bubs- but it is still really reassuring to know if things are looking "normal"
And coming here- this site and this thread- its why people like klee and myself come back. Even though we both have babies (well little boys- they arnt babies anymore ) at home- we are still scared of the possibilty of something going wrong- and we surround ourselves with people who understand!!!
Speaking of little boys- mine wants to lay- so i am off...
I am sorry to read about your early chemical loss. Hopefully this month will be your month!! I know what you mean about not fitting in anywhere too- for some reason i always felt comfy in the preg thread- even before i was pregnant too- our whole ttc thread in my last pregnancy pretty much all moved to the preg thread before we were pregnant!! I think it brought us all luck too- so i hope it does the same to you!!
to everyone for your losses.
) at home- we are still scared of the possibilty of something going wrong- and we surround ourselves with people who understand!!! 
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