very scared - desperate for reassurance

[cheekyfrog]

BW, my nausea disappeared this pregnancy around the 8w mark too and I worried and worried about it. It doesn't help when everyone in the world seems to be stricken with m/s forever when it disappears for you! Well, that's the way it felt for me. I was so relieved at the next scan to see that everything was still all right. My ob patted me on the shoulder and told me to count myself lucky. It's impossible not to worry though, I know. My last pg was a missed m/c too and I remember remarking to the GP I was seeing at an appointment at 10 weeks that I didn't feel pregnant and him saying back to me "Oh, you're very pregnant!" As it turned out, I was right. That time.

I guess, all we can do is to hang on to the success stories and the reality that there are so many women whose nausea is mild and ends early who go on to bring their babies home. Why can't we be lucky this time too? Bellyrubs and baby dust for us all.

[Kitt3n]

BW, my nausea kept coming and going in waves - one week i felt so yuck and the next i felt fine. For a few periods my boobs didnt hurt, i just didnt feel pregnant. Then the next week i would have one yucky nauseus day - and this saturday i will be 14 weeks, 12w scan showed a healthy little bub.

So try not to worry, it really can come and go in waves. I cried a few times cos i just wanted to feel sick dammit! (and like you the absence of the nausea just brought on all of my fears).

XOXOX

[mrsmac]

I had 2 pregnancies with no m/s at all!

[satya]

By 7 weeks I had no traditional early pregnancy symptoms and was very worried all was about to end. All I had was bleeding gums and a stuffy nose and I just held on to that as being a good sign - it's all I had to cling to. I haven't even had headaches through this pregnancy - maybe just two - 2 leg cramps - no morning sickness at all. I've had heartburn all the way through and have had fluid issues with my feet throughout the 3rd tri - that's about it. Symptoms or lack of them don't necessarily have to mean a thing. For most of this pregnancy I've felt so normal it was hard to believe at times that all could possibly be going well in there, yet it was. I really only started to get some relief from the worry when I started to feel movement and of course whenever I had a scan or a doppler.

[butterfly_warrior]

You have no idea just how much it helps to hear from other women who have been through the same thing and still had everything turn out ok. The one thing that is still with me is the constant, unrelenting hunger...

I've got a few theories on why today was so nausea-free. One is that I've been severely constipated, and it's really obvious that things aren't moving through my system that quickly... so my stomach isn't emptying as fast as it has been. The second is that we had dinner really late, and it was mainly eggs - lots of protein just before bed so my blood sugar levels were more stable so less nausea.

I saw a GP this afternoon, not my regular one... he did talk about sending me for blood tests, but decided that we'd need a series of them, and by the time we had a definitive answer I'd be at the OB. He also mentioned sending me for a scan, but in the end we both decided that I'd be better off getting a specialist to do it - more skill... and with the public holiday, I'm really unlikely to be able to get in much before Thursday anyway. At least when I confirmed my appointment with the OB today I was able to make sure that she DOES actually have a u/s machine in her office, so we'll be able to get a look on Thursday.

For now, I'm feeling a little better - but I don't think that seed of doubt is ever going to go away until Thursday... and like you, Willow, probably only for a little while then...

BW

[Spring Angel]

BW: I just wanted to say that I totally know what you mean. There would be days when I was sick with nausea, so much so that I would take a sick bag with me on the train, and then the very next day I felt utterly fine. It messed with my head big time, I have never welcomed sickness so much.

I just wanted to let you know that my symptoms tended to come and go in waves also. Many a day I was worried for the worse but before the nausea crept back in.

Hoping you feel sick as a dog tomorrow (and you know I mean that in the nicest possible way)

Lv Spring

[Celsie]

BW - I've never lost a precious little bundle, but there were times when I was pregnant with DS that I thought I had. My DH rang the local hospital and the midives there were more than happy to do an ultrasound and use a doppler to put my mind at ease. Is it possible for you to do the same?

[Junglemum]

I feel for you BW, it is just the worst isn't it? You almost expect the worst as a kind of protection mechanism. I know i did. I relaxed a little after 12 weeks, but it wasn't until i was holding my DD in my arms that i finally stopped worrying.

Everytime my boobs stopped hurting or a i wasn't hungry or i had a cramp i would think it was the start of another m/c, but like the girls have said the symptoms can easily come and go.

When i was preg with my last pregnancy i tried really hard to focus on the positive. I would lie in bed every night and imagine my little jelly bean snuggling down in my cosy womb. I really believe the mind is a powerful thing. So, as hard as it is, try and think good, strong baby growing thoughts for your little one growing inside you.

Thinking of you.

[StrawberryMumma]

Hey BW

I'm so sorry you are feeling so stressed hunny. The worry is almost unbearable at times isn't it..

Throughout all three of my pregnancies I've had moments where the nausea has completely disappeared, as well as the sore boobies and I could SWEAR that I just wasn't pregnant anymore..Your mind can play terrible tricks on yourself, especially after having miscarriages.

Just hang on matie, I'm sure bubby is just fine.

(Oh and the doppler thing as Celsie mentioned, I have one at home and got a hb on my little one the other day, at 11 something weeks..so maybe it might help you to have one too, for when you are futher on..BUT in saying that, I know they aren't for everyone and can cause more stress but it's just a thought anyway..)

Thinking of you sweet xx