Can you get better with motherhood?

[mumintraining]

I was trying to find any sites or examples of real women (not hollywood) where going through the process of motherhood makes you a better person. I know there is a lot of bad aspects to it but I want to see the good - after all I'm not doing this for mothers day breakfasts.

So here is the question:

If you have already made this transition what has changed for the better? These can be either physically, emotionaly, mentaly or spiritually.

Please share your positive changes, even if your still pregnant with your first. I'm sure I'm not the only one who wants to see the positives.

I'll get the ball rolling:

If I hadn't become pregnant I wouldn't have realised that I still had body image issues. For me to support this child I will have to learn to love my body for what it is and when I reach that point I will be better for embracing Motherhood.

Your turn....

[*Efjay*]

I must say that I am more at peace with my body image then before kids. I also think I have a nicer body (if I do say so myself LOL) then bebore I had kids. I have boobs & curves LOL. Before I was a stick with a face.

[The[cookie]Doctor]

If i hadn't of become pregnant / a mum, i wouldn't have realised that i still car WAAAYYY too much about what other people think of me. Where i need to learn that it doesnt matter, because I am happy, and I think this is / I am right.
I am slowly learning that I am just as human as everybody else and that I don't have to care!

What a good thread!

[Phteven]

I've learnt to be excited about little things again. A rainbow is a big deal and so is a spider in the bathtub lol.

[Nai]

I have FINALLY learnt to share my food

Seriously though it has taught me how to accept my body and like it just the way it is, it has taught me to love someone without boundaries, it has taught me that I am stronger than I ever thought possible and it has taught me to laugh at the little things.

[mumintraining]

Well I don't know about others but your comments so far have put a smile on my face.

I thought of another one:

Since becomming pregnant I have seen my own mother (and MIL) in a new light. I am more forgiving and understanding of their decisions and the past.

This really hit home when I realised that every decision I make affects their little life. While I will make mistakes I know I am trying my absolute best - just as my parents were trying to do for me.

Keep up the positive comments, I know you've made at least one persons day brighter.

[Mumma2three]

For short term my body image improved alot. After 10 years though, I'd still like to feel better about myself. HOwever.......
I have learnt a new level of compassion.
I have learnt how to put my self in other people's shoes
I have become MUCh easier to set off into tears!!
I truly appreciate what my parents did for me.
Mainly though, it's taught me that there is nothing on this earth like the love of a mother for their child. I would do ANYTHING and go ANYWHERE for my children. I can't believe how strong the love is. I also have to remember that other mothers feel the same about their kids, and this has helped me especially with MIL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[{sarah}]

I've learnt to be excited about little things again. A rainbow is a big deal and so is a spider in the bathtub lol.

I agree with your one whole heartedly. How pretty a flower is, how amazing the rain feels on your face, spinning til you fall down is fun.... Just the little things that you forget about are brought back to life once you're a mum.

[~Kim~]

Amen Dach.

I learned how much patience I never even knew I had.
I learned how I could be what i had previously thought was deaths door with illness and still carry on and be bright and cheerful.
I learned to trust and have faith in me.
I understood the need to stand in the doorway way after bedtime and watch a small person sleep.

[satya]

I'm still pregnant but have learnt to love my pregnant body. I've learnt that regardless of your age (I'll be 42 next month) it really is possible to glow when pregnant and if I'd managed to have children when I was young I probably would've had a few as I'm taking to it so well (that idealistic view could of course change when I hit the delivery suite).

I have a 5yo step daughter and one of the earliest things she taught me (she's been in my life since she was 2) was not to be so afraid of germs. I can now sit on a public loo - I never could before but realised I had to do it when she was with me or else she'd end up with a complex about them. I can also share her food, and I don't stress about the sticky fingers that go in and out of the lolly bowl or the chip bowl. It just doesn't bother me anymore.

[PinkPalace]

If i hadnt become pregnant - i would have never known the amazing feeling to have a beautiful human being grown inside me, and how miracalous and blessed it felt to do so.

If i hadnt become a mother - i wouldnt have the understanding for all other parents in the world who's children scream on public transport and get filthy looks for sour people
- I wouldnt have ever understood that it was possible to love someone more than life itself and become such a lioness in protecting her.