Can you get better with motherhood?

[The[cookie]Doctor]

If i hadn't of become pregnant / a mum, i wouldn't have realised that i still car WAAAYYY too much about what other people think of me. Where i need to learn that it doesnt matter, because I am happy, and I think this is / I am right.
I am slowly learning that I am just as human as everybody else and that I don't have to care!

What a good thread!

[Phteven]

I've learnt to be excited about little things again. A rainbow is a big deal and so is a spider in the bathtub lol.

[Nai]

I have FINALLY learnt to share my food

Seriously though it has taught me how to accept my body and like it just the way it is, it has taught me to love someone without boundaries, it has taught me that I am stronger than I ever thought possible and it has taught me to laugh at the little things.

[mumintraining]

Well I don't know about others but your comments so far have put a smile on my face.

I thought of another one:

Since becomming pregnant I have seen my own mother (and MIL) in a new light. I am more forgiving and understanding of their decisions and the past.

This really hit home when I realised that every decision I make affects their little life. While I will make mistakes I know I am trying my absolute best - just as my parents were trying to do for me.

Keep up the positive comments, I know you've made at least one persons day brighter.

[Mumma2three]

For short term my body image improved alot. After 10 years though, I'd still like to feel better about myself. HOwever.......
I have learnt a new level of compassion.
I have learnt how to put my self in other people's shoes
I have become MUCh easier to set off into tears!!
I truly appreciate what my parents did for me.
Mainly though, it's taught me that there is nothing on this earth like the love of a mother for their child. I would do ANYTHING and go ANYWHERE for my children. I can't believe how strong the love is. I also have to remember that other mothers feel the same about their kids, and this has helped me especially with MIL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[{sarah}]

I've learnt to be excited about little things again. A rainbow is a big deal and so is a spider in the bathtub lol.

I agree with your one whole heartedly. How pretty a flower is, how amazing the rain feels on your face, spinning til you fall down is fun.... Just the little things that you forget about are brought back to life once you're a mum.

[~Kim~]

Amen Dach.

I learned how much patience I never even knew I had.
I learned how I could be what i had previously thought was deaths door with illness and still carry on and be bright and cheerful.
I learned to trust and have faith in me.
I understood the need to stand in the doorway way after bedtime and watch a small person sleep.

[satya]

I'm still pregnant but have learnt to love my pregnant body. I've learnt that regardless of your age (I'll be 42 next month) it really is possible to glow when pregnant and if I'd managed to have children when I was young I probably would've had a few as I'm taking to it so well (that idealistic view could of course change when I hit the delivery suite).

I have a 5yo step daughter and one of the earliest things she taught me (she's been in my life since she was 2) was not to be so afraid of germs. I can now sit on a public loo - I never could before but realised I had to do it when she was with me or else she'd end up with a complex about them. I can also share her food, and I don't stress about the sticky fingers that go in and out of the lolly bowl or the chip bowl. It just doesn't bother me anymore.

[mrsmac]

I can laugh at myself or make a fool of myself just to see my children laugh. I can love someone with such intensity it hurts even when they are driving me crazy!

[Beach Mama]

I have learnt to laugh at so many little things.
I have become more selfless than I ever thought possible.
I have come to appreciate and love the person that my DH is more than I ever did before..... we have become closer and although I would never have a baby to repair a marriage, in our case it did help us both heal.
I haven't felt emotions so intensely ever before in my life..... and so many all at the same time! Such wonder, sadness, happiness, joy, ecstacy, frustration and love all at the one time!
I have learnt to like myself and to be proud of myself as a person, and in particular as a brilliant mother (most of the time!)