Westy, I have the same problem as you, I tried so hard to breastfeed my first, but I just dont produce milk. My mum had the same problem with her three, so I dont see me being able to do it this time either. I was worried about the hospital midwives, especially since the hospital im using has a very high breastfeeding rate, but when I went in for a tour they said they support and encourage breastfeeding, but if you choose not to or if you cant, then they support you in that as well. Choosing to formula feed when you have no milk is you doing what is best for your baby, and they should be able to see the sense in that. My baby lived on scarce milk and blood for the first few days of his life, and nobody can tell me he is better off for it, and I will not let it happen again.
Ok, I apologise for the rant and hijacking your post, all I really want to say to you is to do what you feel is best for your baby, and the midwives will hopefully respect you for that. And fingers crossed that particular midwife is on a holiday or somerthing!