Bec, there is a free telephone counselling number which gives non-directive counselling around pregnancy decisions. If you google pregnancy counselling link you should find the page easily. It's a 1800 number. Perhaps both you and your partner could organise a three-way discussion with a counsellor? (I'm not sure if they do that, just an idea). They also do referrals to relevant services as well.

My other idea is to post like crazy in all the general chatter threads etc and get your count up to 50 so you can join the PSG and speak to others who have been in your situation in more privacy.

Sending you more I notice you've logged off and I hope it's not because of the way this thread has gone.