Glenny there would be something wrong with you if you didn't worry about the baby's health after what you have been through.

How common is it for the heart defect to run in the family? I mean for two siblings to have it?

There is no reason this baby won't be healthy like your first child.

I've suffered from anxiety a lot and the one thing that helps me is to think about my circle of influence
Things YOU can control. Anything you can't control has to be pushed aside so you can function.

Could they look for it at 12 or 20 week scan knowing there is a risk?