well first of all i will give my personal story here but in no way do i condone the fact that i am a smoker i am a well educated 36 year old mother of 5 soon to be 6.
i had my first child 17 years ago i was young and scared so the thought of giving up never even crossed my mind as well as the fact that my whole family smoked and all us kids had been born fine and healthy and to this day still are,number 1 was quickly followed by the next 3 and yes i smaked through every pregnancy and with the first 3 wasnt even told to cut down(how things have changed)
was told we couldnt have any more babies do to some ladie probs and 4 yars later bang here comes number 5 it was a shock and yes as much as i hate to admit it not one we hjandled well my smokeing went through the roof this time i did get curry from all quaters mostly the doctors i asked them tp show me some concreat proof of what smoking was doing to my baby they told me all the usuall stuff increased m/c,pre term labour,small birth weight,still birth,and a few others i cant rememberbut they coulnt prove to me that it was only from smoking or even from smoking at all anyway we were once again told you most certantly cant have any moore babies as your reproductive system is shoot ok well we had 5 healthy kids and what do you know 7 years down the track and yep here comes number 6 (i will not be taking there word for it again he is getting sniped lol)i am now 33 weeks along and as you can imagine have been told in no uncertin terms this is not on i have cut down but by no mean by enough and i know this i also understand that if you do it all by the book and then someone like me comes along that it seems so unfair.all my kids were born post dates by at last 10 days (so there goes pre term labour)have never had a m/c that i know of (very lucky i know)my babies birth weights were 6lbs 14oz,7lbs8oz,7lbs 6oz,9lbs 2oz,9lbs 11oz and no i have never had gd so thats not the reason for the high birth weights and they did a sizing scan last week on this bub and they are saying already6lbs(so there goes low birth weights) never had a still birth (thank god) but i am a very stressy person have had pnd twice and have been told by both doctors and midwives that anything that releaves stress is better then stress itself ,im not saying you should smoke as a matter of fact i wish id never gone there in the first place myself but i can only do what i can do ,my kids are all healthy not even ever had athsma very rearly sick and as they are now 17,15,13,12and 7 so far so good i know people who do everything spot on and it still goes wrong i honestly beleave a lot in life is luck,chance,fate whatever you wish to call it ,try to always remember you are a great mother sure we may stuff some of it up along the way and we dont always do everything we should but we are not perfect and are not ment to be ,mother hood is the most guilt ridden thing you will ever come across we beat ourselves up over just about everything we do or dont do ,if you think you are a bad mum just think you can always read this and think compered to her im good not only do i smoke all but one of my babies were induced and i hope they induce this one to i must be one of the only few people who dont think its not that bad i only breast feed 2 of my bubs and not for long and wont be doing it this time either,but you know what i am over worring about what other people think of me nd the main reason for this is my kids are all healthy and i am the most important person in there world so for me i got the really important stuff spot on.
sorry this is so long i had no intention of it being maybe this has been on my mind for awhile LOL