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    Did you quit smoking when pregnant? Or did you continue to smoke but less?


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    I had quit smoking at the end of March 2003. But if I had fallen pregnant while I was still smoking I would have given up straight away.

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    I was planning on quitting, (starting to cost too much) slowly cutting down, but then I found out I was pregnant, so I finished the pack I was on (bad I know, but they were three pretty stressful days) and didn't touch them again. I never thought I would have the strength to go solid cold turkey, but it wasmy child's health at stake, and besides, they started to taste really gross.

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    I quit as soon as I found out...that was it. I had tried to quit three times last year and it wasn't until the Dr said, you are definately pregnant that I quit then and there....

    I even threw the ciggarrettes out a week later shocked that I hadn't even thought of them.... I do now though... I keep thinking how nice it would be.... but I don't think I'll ever go back!

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    just poking my head in
    i dont smoke, never have and never will lol
    but just wanted to stick my nosy beak in and say i cant stand people who are pregnant and smoking, in my opion it is an extremly wrong thing to do.

    my mums a chain smoker and i blame that for why i was so short and small at birth, i was on time and i was only 4lbs and now im 21 and only 5ft if that the rest of my family is tall , my mum and dad and even my brothers .. theres probly short people down the line somwhere but i like to blame my mums smoking whilst pregnant with me..

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    Lesley

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    by the way just notcied your new to belly belly, so id like to say welcome to the family, hope you enjoy it as much as i do everyones really friendly and noone hates you for saying your own opinon , there very supportive

    take care
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    Just to throw a spanner in the works, most Dr's recommend that you do NOT quit cold turkey if you have been a serious smoker and find out you are pregnant. I was told to gradually quit when I was pregnant, as if I had gone cold turkey it could have caused a miscarriage. I think like everything, everyone is different. I always found it very easy to quit whenever I liked (when I did smoke) however I have friends who I know will never be able to quit. Smoking is like any drug and it is extremely addictive as most of you would already know.

    As I too don't really like the idea of smoking when pregnant (not that I will have to worry about that with TTC#2 coz its a thing of the past) I don't think its right to judge others as you can never know what its like for them. I think if we judged less and tried to help or support smoking mothers (to quit), they might find it easier to quit. IYWKIM.

    I am an ex smoker, but I am NOT one of those types that Hates other smokers. If people choose to smoke thats their choice, so long as you respect the air that my daughter breathes then I really don't care.

    I hope you understand where I am coming from I just thought I would give another perspective.

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    I know what you mean Cailin.

    I always swore that when I eventually quit, I wasn't going to be like that. I always thought it was hypocritical to be all like, I've figured out that smoking is bad for you, so now the entire world has to quit too. My DP still smokes, but he is planning on quitting, and he never smokes around me. Not inside either, but he never did that. His aim was to quit before Brandon was born, but things have been so stressful round here lately, I don't think that will happen. But he swears he won't be smoking around Brandon, so all in good time I guess.

    I'd never heard that about going cold turkey maybe causing a miscarriage. All the web sites I looked at said smokers should give up right away in such a righteous tone that you know the authors never smoked. I mean, smokers know it's bad for them, common sense is going to tell you it's bad for your baby, but no one likes to be preached at.

    So I guess what we're all saying, is see a doctor, and try and give up the best you can.

    (Personally, looking at my huge bloated belly, I think a lower birth weight would be kinda nice right now. j/k)

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    I smoked about 5 a day with my 1st preg, about 10 a day with my 2nd, and about the same for my 3rd. ( gave up at 5 months in that preg).

    My plan with the 2nd child was to give up, but it was so hard even though I knew it could damage my baby. At 18 weeks we had a scare and heaps of scans, and the stress made it impossible to quit. I asked the counseller and doctors at the specialists if smoking was a contributr to what they were looking at and they said no.

    I am still smoking at the moment with this latest pregnancy, and I do feel guilty about it. I just find it so difficult to quit. I don't want to be judged by others as I am my own harshest critic. And I will give up before too much longer, I am cutting down and trying not to have as many as I normally would have. I know I will stop but stresses make it difficult.

    Even though I smoked my babies birth weights have been 6 lb 13, 7lb 8 and 8 lb 4 1/2. None of my kids are asthmatics and none have had serious our even minor health problems. Nobody smokes around my children or in our house. Not that I use this as a reason to smoke, but it has to be in my time. My kids don't even know I smoke, which means I can only smoke when none of them are around.

    Please don't think I am a bad person!

    Regards Michelle

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    I just typed a bit letter to Michelle on here but my computer deleted it! UGH!

    I was just writing not to beat yourself up about it. It is far worse to do that than to quit or not too quit. I don't have any idea how I quit, I smoked for around 15 years, and I have no idea what happened, except for massive m/s and being too nauseus to think about smoking after I stopped.... I had tried to quit around 5 times every year for the past 5 years, and even going to the point of telling DH that I had quit and hiding it from him for years. It was only the day that the blood test result came back that I realised that I was PG and I didn't smoke again. But thats not to say that if I still had a cig around I wouldn't smoke it right now! But I don't, so I can't.... Its been 20 weeks since I've had one...and I still think about it every day! So...don't beat yourself up! Its no good for you... as you know.

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    Michelle noone is here to judge anyone. Regardless of peoples opinions about smoking whilst pregnant you have been honest and I thankyou for that. I don't think you a bad person. Smoking is an addiction and it took me many years and many failures to finally quit. You have to be ready to quit or you will always fail.

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    Thanks Christy and Lara

    You know I always thought "as soon as I get preg that's it I'll stop". But I underestimated the addiction. I was really proud of myself when I finally gave up at 5 months preg with my 3rd child, and I stress about whether I have damaged them in some way.

    It's funny how it's so hard to give up, but so easy to start agian. 1 smoke and that's it, I'm hooked again.

    I guess one reason why I feel bad is because I know that there are so many people who have trouble conceiving and they put babies as the no. 1 priority, and are devastated time and time again after mc and yet I can't seem to do that. The cigs have such a strong hold. When I don't smoke I feel great, but that trigger in the brain is super strong, it makes you forget those things.

    Michelle

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    I recently worked with a lady who was having Chemo for breast cancer and was still smoking. She just could not stop. Thats how bad a cigarette addiction can be.

    One other thing you can't feel terrible for other people misfortunes. I have had a m/c and I certainly don't think anything bad about you because you are a smoker.

    Have you ever tried those patches, thats what helped me this time around.

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    Michelle, thank you for your honesty! I think it will definitley help those in your situation to know they are not alone. You are definitley not a bad person. And you are NOT a bad mother, if smoking is the worst thing you do in your life then you are already a better person than most!

    I am so proud of all you girls, thank you for being supportive and non judgemental. You are all what makes BB a great place to be.

    Keep up the good work!

    *hugs*
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    Michelle,

    You are definately a good mother if your kids don't even know you smoke.

    So many times I'm walking around my neighbourhood and see young mothers with very young babies in prams, and cigerettes in their hands. I'm not judging them for not being able to quit, I know it's hard because I drove around crazy when I quit, but I can't say I support their decision to smoke around their children. It's bad enough with toddlers and older, but I really can't say it's ok for anyone to smoke around young babies.

    And yes, when I get stressed out, I still itch to have a smoke in my hands too, but I can deal with that because ages ago, about a month or two after I quit, I was reall, REALLY, stressed out, and convinced my partner to give me a drag of his smoke, and it was the most revolting thing I'd ever tasted. Cigerettes had never, ever tasted that bad in my entire life, not even my very first. So now when I get a cigerette craving, I think of that, and then anything else other than smoking, and it passes.

    Good luck woth quitting for all the mothers (/to be) that are trying to quit, we're here to support you, and for all the smoking mothers who feel they can''t quit, I'll back you up, as long as you don't smoke near your kids.

    *steps off soapbox* Ok, I'm done ranting now.

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    It's nice to see people here discussing this issue in such an open, honest and friendly manner, whilst still stating an opinion IYKWIM.

    I feel like I'm a bit of a combination of all these opinions rolled into one! LOL I used to smoke and quit in June 2003 within a couple of weeks of finding out I was PG for the first time. Silly me, having smoked for years thought that I wouldn't fall PG straight away, so I had plenty of time to give up in! (My decision was always that I would give up smoking if I fell PG, despite having given up once before of my own accord!). As it happened I didn't have plenty of time and fell PG the first month of trying, so was forced to give up quick smart, but I was comfortable with that as for several months I had cut my smoking RIGHT down and I simply wanted to put the baby's needs and requirements above my own cravings for cigarettes. That's a personal decision that I had made a long time ago.

    I thought the info you put forward was interesting Cailin - it seems that you're damned if you do and damned if you don't - your risk of m/c is significantly higher if you smoke, yet it's high if you go cold turkey!

    I do have to say that as a person who has suffered m/c and seen PG women smoking, I have been offended. I guess it's because of my OWN personal experience with m/c - feeling that I had been robbed of something so precious (despite giving up smoking) and there was someone right in front of me smoking but who hasn't m/c IYKWIM...it made me think "why was I singled out when I gave up, but there's this woman still smoking who hasn't suffered a m/c" (these are the kind of things you think about after a m/c as you are always looking for a reason for why this happened to you). It used to confuse me and upset me to be honest. However, I also appreciate that I don't know that person, their lifestyle, why they have made the decisions that they have made, and perhaps as Cailin has pointed out, they have a good reason for making their decision. I guess having had the experience with the m/c's also made me think that I had to do everything in my power to be healthy for the sake of any future PG IYKWIM, so smoking was never again going to be an option.

    All of that said, I do respect other people's rights to make their own decisions about their lifestyle and what is best for them so I have never expressed publically my thoughts on the issue until now. I guess what I'm saying is that smoking during pregnancy isn't something I would do, and am glad that I have given up, although I can say there have been moments where I fancied one, but I have not once caved.

    OK....enough from me! I hope all of that came out right and didn't offend...certainly isn't meant to!

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    It is nice to see such a "sensitive" topic being debated honestly without rows! Let's keep it that way!

    I was a long term smoker (nearly 20 years?) and gave up when it came to TTC time.......but my DH still smokes (outside), so I can really see it from both sides of the fence.

    Sometimes when we have people over for a nice dinner, and the wine is flowing with the after dinner conversation, I am SO tempted!

    I am not a typical "ex smoker"........I love the smell, even though most people think it's revolting..........

    I gave up using a hypnotherapy CD/Book.........if anyone wants the details, let me know..........

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    I smoked occassionaly when I was pregnant with Emma ... small babies ... blah LOL she was 9lbs 7ozs and 54cms long!!!! I was at Uni and was a smoker before I fell pregnant. I didn't have very many and didn't miss them much at all.

    When I was pregnant with Jack I was smoking still and actually smoking more than with Emma (lots of stresses in first marriage!!!) once again Jack was 9lbs 8 1/2ozs and 57cms long ... so I am not sure about the smaller baby issue (and can I just quickly say, tounge in cheek, if it is true then thank God I smoked LOL).

    With this baby I had given up smoking and then at 14 weeks we went on holidays to Queensland with 4 kids!!!! and we both started smoking again ... never in fron tof the kids but once they had gone to bed ... unwinding time. When we came back I was still smoking quite regularly but now only have the occassional ciggie, especially if it has been a hard day at work or the kids are annoying me LOL.

    I would also like to add that I don't smoke in front of my kids and don't smoke inside (no smokes inside here and everyone of our friends who smoke think its cool and go outside). I will say taht I wonder if my smoking while I was pregnant has caused my childrens health problems (nothing major) but after speaking to my Doctor it wouldn't have helped but certainly wasn't the cause of the problems!!!

    I think it is really important to be aware of peoples situations ... I can honestly say quitting smoking was one of the hardest things I have ever done ... and sometimes as much as you try it can't be helped. Smoking is a serious addiction and one of the biggest addictions in the world. Lucy I am like you and still really enjoy the smell of a cigarette, especially after a beautiful dinner and a few glasses of wine (oh and yes I still drink the occassional glass of wine but no one looks at me cross eyed for that LOL).

    I have enjoyed reading this topic and am glad someone started it off. I am also pleased to see that we have been able to be open and honest to talk about it frankly and without fear of being "beaten" down.

    I look forward to it continuing.

    Cheers
    Kelly

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